Just a week before Christmas I had a surprise visitor. I had just finished the household chores for the night and was preparing to go to bed, when I heard a noise in the front of the house. I opened the door to the front room, and to my surprise, Santa himself stepped out from behind the Christmas tree. He placed his finger over his mouth so I would not cry out.
"What are you doing?" I started to ask him. The words choked in my throat, as I saw he had tears in his eyes. His usual jolly manner was gone. Gone was the eager boisterous soul we all know. He then answered me with a simple statement: "TEACH THE CHILDREN!"
I was puzzled: "What did he mean?" He anticipated myquestion, and with one quick movement brought forth a miniature toy bag from behind the tree.
As I stood there bewildered, Santa said, "Teach the children! Teach them the old meaning of Christmas, the meaning that today's Christmas has forgotten!" Santa then reached in his bag and pulled out a small fir tree and placed it on the mantle.
"Teach the children that the pure green color of the stately fir tree remains green all year round, depicting the everlasting hope of mankind. All the needles point heavenward, making it a symbol of man's thoughts turning toward heaven."
He again reached into his bag and pulled out a brilliant star: "Teach the children that the star wasthe heavenly sign of promises long ago. God promised aSavior for the world, and the star was the sign of fulfillment of that promise."
He then reached into the bag and pulled out a candle: "Teach the children that the candle symbolizes Christ, the light of the world, and when we see this great light we are reminded of He who displaces the darkness."
Once again he reached into his bag and then removed a wreath and placed it on the tree: "Teach the children that the wreath symbolizes the eternal nature of love, and the love that the Lord has for us is never ending."
He then pulled out from his bag an ornament of himself--Santa Claus: "Teach the children that Santa Claus symbolizes the generosity and good will we feel during the month of December."
He reached in again and pulled out a holly leaf: "Teach the children that the holly plant represents immortality. It represents the crown of thorns worn by our Savior. The red holly berries represent blood shed by Him."
Next he pulled out a gift from the bag: "Teach the children that God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son. Thanks be to God for His unspeakable gift. Teach the children that the wise men bowed before the holy babe and presented Him with gold, frankincense, and myrrh. We should give gifts inthe same spirit as the wise men."
Santa then reached in his bag and pulled out a candy cane and hung it on the tree: "Teach the children that the candy cane represents the shepherd's crook. The crook on the shepherd's staff helps bring back strayed sheep from the flock. The candy cane is the symbol that we are our brother's keeper."
He reached in again and pulled out an angel: "Teach the children that it was the angels who heralded inthe glorious news of the Savior's birth. The angels sang 'Glory to God in the highest, on earth, peace and good will.'"
Suddenly I heard a soft twinkling sound, and from his bag he pulled out a bell: "Teach the children that as the lost sheep are found by the sound of a bell, it should bring people to the fold. The bell symbolizes guidance and return."
Santa looked at the tree and was pleased. He looked back at me and I saw the twinkle was back in his eyes.
He said, "Remember, teach the children the true meaning of Christmas, and not to put me in the center, for I am but a humble servant of the One who is, and I bow down and worship Him, our Lord, our God."
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Beautiful quotes
Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world.
If you compare, you are insulting yourself.
No one will manufacture a lock without a key.
Similarly God won't give problems without solutions.
Life laughs at you when you are unhappy...
Life smiles at you when you are happy...
Life salutes you when you make others happy.
Easy is to judge the mistake of others.
Difficult is to recognise our own mistakes.
It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to cover the earth with carpet.
No one can go back and change a bad beginning;
But anyone can start now and create a successful ending.
If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it.
If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?
If you miss an opportunity don't fill the eyes with tears.
It will hide another better opportunity in front of you.
'Changing the Face' can change nothing.
But 'Facing the Change' can change everything.
Don't complain about others;
Change yourself if you want peace.
Mistakes are painful when they happen.
But years later collection of mistakes is called experience, which leads to success.
Be bold when you loose and be calm when you win.
Heated gold becomes ornament.
Beaten copper becomes wires.
Depleted stone becomes statue.
So the more pain you get in life you become more valuable.
Every successful person has a painful story.
Every painful story has a successful ending.
Accept the pain and get ready for success.
If you compare, you are insulting yourself.
No one will manufacture a lock without a key.
Similarly God won't give problems without solutions.
Life laughs at you when you are unhappy...
Life smiles at you when you are happy...
Life salutes you when you make others happy.
Easy is to judge the mistake of others.
Difficult is to recognise our own mistakes.
It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to cover the earth with carpet.
No one can go back and change a bad beginning;
But anyone can start now and create a successful ending.
If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it.
If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?
If you miss an opportunity don't fill the eyes with tears.
It will hide another better opportunity in front of you.
'Changing the Face' can change nothing.
But 'Facing the Change' can change everything.
Don't complain about others;
Change yourself if you want peace.
Mistakes are painful when they happen.
But years later collection of mistakes is called experience, which leads to success.
Be bold when you loose and be calm when you win.
Heated gold becomes ornament.
Beaten copper becomes wires.
Depleted stone becomes statue.
So the more pain you get in life you become more valuable.
Every successful person has a painful story.
Every painful story has a successful ending.
Accept the pain and get ready for success.
Saturday, December 6, 2008
好話 v.s 壞話 … 只在一念之間
作者：劉墉
說件 「鮮事」 給您聽──
有個丈夫跟太太親熱，撫摸著太太，很有情趣地讚美：「妳的皮膚摸起來真細，絕不像四十歲的女人。」
太太笑：「是啊！最近摸過的人都這麼說。」
『啪！』 一記耳光。
丈夫吼道：「妳最近讓多少人摸過？妳老實招來！」
太太摀著臉，哭著喊：「大家是這麼說啊！每個護膚中心的小姐都這麼說。」
這是真事，但是怎麼看都像笑話對不對？
問題是，當你細心觀察就會發現，我們周遭充滿這樣的笑話。
只因為一句話沒說對，就把喜劇變成了悲劇，把眼看就要辦成的好事變成了壞事。
「話」人人會說，只是不見得人人會說話；有話好說，只是不見得人人說好話。
不說好話的道理很簡單──因為他沒有多想一想。
舉個例子：最近我有個朋友，在他新居的後院搭了間工具房。那工具房是買現成的材料，再自己拼裝的，專門用來放剪草機、鏟子、鋤頭這些整理花園的工具。
可是我這朋友興高采烈地才拼裝到一半，他的鄰居竟然隔著牆喊：「你亂蓋房子，是違法的。」
我這朋友氣極了，跑到建管處去問，得到的答案是蓋十呎乘十呎以內的工具屋，
不違法；只有超過，才違法。
他回去量了量自己買的工具屋，是十呎乘十二呎，多了兩呎，於是拿去退掉，換成合法的尺寸。
工具屋搭好了，他跑來對我說：「我非要去糗糗我那鄰居不可，我要告訴他中國人不好欺負，
我去政府單位問過了，現在搭的絕對合法，歡迎他去告！」
「你何必這麼說呢？」我勸他，您何不換個方式，對他說： 『真是謝謝你，幸虧你提醒我，
不然我的工具屋多了兩呎，因為違法得拆除，就白蓋了。』 你不是照樣讓他知道你去問過政府單位，現在是合法建築了嗎？」
朋友想了想，覺得有理，照辦了。結果不但沒有得罪鄰居，還交上了好朋友。
再說個故事。
有個人和他太太為了一點小事吵架，要離婚，起因居然不但不是壞事，還是好事。
那一天，他太太買到一條上好的石斑魚，特別打電話到辦公室：「你離開辦公室的時候，打個電話回來，我好下鍋蒸， 這石斑魚，多一分鐘少一分鐘都不成。」
那太太想得很好，丈夫出門，她蒸魚，丈夫進門，正好上桌。
偏偏她丈夫下班的時候，才打完電話，說要出門了，就碰上個客戶突然造訪，耽誤了二十分鐘。
「糟了！」 送走客戶，丈夫心想，趕緊又撥個電話回家： 「對不起，臨時有事，現在才能走。」
太太一聽，在那頭跳了起來： 「什麼？你還在辦公室？ 你不知道魚涼了不好吃嗎？你知道這條石斑魚多少錢嗎？」
丈夫沒多吭氣，匆匆忙忙開車回去，一路想，一路急，加上晚了，餓，胃都急疼了，路上還差點撞了人。
進門沒好氣地說一句： 「魚涼了就涼了嘛！熱熱不就得了？」 太太也沒好氣： 「你是沒命吃好魚，以後給你吃涼的。」
兩個人當然 「吵翻了」，拉開嗓子吼，把孩子都嚇哭了，一條好好的石斑魚，放在桌上，誰都沒吃，還差點離了婚。
你說，他們是會說話嗎？
如果那作太太的，能像我那搭工具屋的朋友，換個角度說： 「別急！別急！魚涼了，微波爐熱一分鐘就成了，開車小心點，我們等你。」
會說話與不會說話，常在那一念之間。
一念之間，他懂得忍、懂得退一步想，想想壞話怎麼好說， 狠話怎麼柔說，就可能有個喜劇的結局。
那一念之間，他毫不考慮地脫口而出，則可能是個悲劇的結尾。
雖然許多人讚美我口才好，但是我從不這麼認為，而且覺得自己年輕的時候總是說錯話。
即使到今天，我每天晚上還是常把白天說的話想一想，檢討一下，是不是有不妥當，或者「有更好的說話方法」。
正因此，在這本書裡我提出的案例，都是最真實的，發生在大家身邊的小事。
而由那些小事裡，常能見到大學問；由那些簡單的話語中，常能觸及心靈的深處。
說件 「鮮事」 給您聽──
有個丈夫跟太太親熱，撫摸著太太，很有情趣地讚美：「妳的皮膚摸起來真細，絕不像四十歲的女人。」
太太笑：「是啊！最近摸過的人都這麼說。」
『啪！』 一記耳光。
丈夫吼道：「妳最近讓多少人摸過？妳老實招來！」
太太摀著臉，哭著喊：「大家是這麼說啊！每個護膚中心的小姐都這麼說。」
這是真事，但是怎麼看都像笑話對不對？
問題是，當你細心觀察就會發現，我們周遭充滿這樣的笑話。
只因為一句話沒說對，就把喜劇變成了悲劇，把眼看就要辦成的好事變成了壞事。
「話」人人會說，只是不見得人人會說話；有話好說，只是不見得人人說好話。
不說好話的道理很簡單──因為他沒有多想一想。
舉個例子：最近我有個朋友，在他新居的後院搭了間工具房。那工具房是買現成的材料，再自己拼裝的，專門用來放剪草機、鏟子、鋤頭這些整理花園的工具。
可是我這朋友興高采烈地才拼裝到一半，他的鄰居竟然隔著牆喊：「你亂蓋房子，是違法的。」
我這朋友氣極了，跑到建管處去問，得到的答案是蓋十呎乘十呎以內的工具屋，
不違法；只有超過，才違法。
他回去量了量自己買的工具屋，是十呎乘十二呎，多了兩呎，於是拿去退掉，換成合法的尺寸。
工具屋搭好了，他跑來對我說：「我非要去糗糗我那鄰居不可，我要告訴他中國人不好欺負，
我去政府單位問過了，現在搭的絕對合法，歡迎他去告！」
「你何必這麼說呢？」我勸他，您何不換個方式，對他說： 『真是謝謝你，幸虧你提醒我，
不然我的工具屋多了兩呎，因為違法得拆除，就白蓋了。』 你不是照樣讓他知道你去問過政府單位，現在是合法建築了嗎？」
朋友想了想，覺得有理，照辦了。結果不但沒有得罪鄰居，還交上了好朋友。
再說個故事。
有個人和他太太為了一點小事吵架，要離婚，起因居然不但不是壞事，還是好事。
那一天，他太太買到一條上好的石斑魚，特別打電話到辦公室：「你離開辦公室的時候，打個電話回來，我好下鍋蒸， 這石斑魚，多一分鐘少一分鐘都不成。」
那太太想得很好，丈夫出門，她蒸魚，丈夫進門，正好上桌。
偏偏她丈夫下班的時候，才打完電話，說要出門了，就碰上個客戶突然造訪，耽誤了二十分鐘。
「糟了！」 送走客戶，丈夫心想，趕緊又撥個電話回家： 「對不起，臨時有事，現在才能走。」
太太一聽，在那頭跳了起來： 「什麼？你還在辦公室？ 你不知道魚涼了不好吃嗎？你知道這條石斑魚多少錢嗎？」
丈夫沒多吭氣，匆匆忙忙開車回去，一路想，一路急，加上晚了，餓，胃都急疼了，路上還差點撞了人。
進門沒好氣地說一句： 「魚涼了就涼了嘛！熱熱不就得了？」 太太也沒好氣： 「你是沒命吃好魚，以後給你吃涼的。」
兩個人當然 「吵翻了」，拉開嗓子吼，把孩子都嚇哭了，一條好好的石斑魚，放在桌上，誰都沒吃，還差點離了婚。
你說，他們是會說話嗎？
如果那作太太的，能像我那搭工具屋的朋友，換個角度說： 「別急！別急！魚涼了，微波爐熱一分鐘就成了，開車小心點，我們等你。」
會說話與不會說話，常在那一念之間。
一念之間，他懂得忍、懂得退一步想，想想壞話怎麼好說， 狠話怎麼柔說，就可能有個喜劇的結局。
那一念之間，他毫不考慮地脫口而出，則可能是個悲劇的結尾。
雖然許多人讚美我口才好，但是我從不這麼認為，而且覺得自己年輕的時候總是說錯話。
即使到今天，我每天晚上還是常把白天說的話想一想，檢討一下，是不是有不妥當，或者「有更好的說話方法」。
正因此，在這本書裡我提出的案例，都是最真實的，發生在大家身邊的小事。
而由那些小事裡，常能見到大學問；由那些簡單的話語中，常能觸及心靈的深處。
Sunday, November 30, 2008
快乐名言
△快乐好比一只蝴蝶，你若伸手去捉它，往往会落空；但如果你静静地坐下来，它反而会在你身上停留。
△如果我们只是纯粹想追求个人的快乐，这个愿望很容易达成；但如果我们希望比别人快乐，就太难了，因为我们总认为别人比我们快乐。
△有人说，要让自己快乐，最好的方法是先令别人快乐。
△快乐是成功的副产品。
△你只要生气一分钟，便丧失了60秒钟的快乐。
△每天像无头苍蝇一般在找寻快乐的人，最后总是一无所获。原因是快乐并非无所不在，而是要靠自己去制造。
△如果各国领袖晚上睡觉时，能多做美梦，少做恶梦的话，这个世界将充满更多快乐。
△爱自己只会让我们更孤独，爱别人会让我们更快乐。
△快乐是发现汽车两刷夹的是一张广告，而不是罚单。
△如果快乐不能与人分享，这不算是真正的快乐了。
△快乐是一种心境，跟财富、年龄与环境无关。
△如果快乐可以用钱买到，大多数人都会因价格贵得离谱而不快乐。
△从来不懂得心存感激的人，绝对体验不出快乐的真谛。
△如何才能得到快乐?抛弃仇恨、远离烦恼、生活简单、淡泊名利、常设身处地为别人着想、笑口常开、心中有爱。
△为了寻找快乐，你走遍了千山万水，始终见不到它的踪影。其实只要你拥有一颗知足的心，快乐就在你身上。
△若想得到快乐，就别让自己过得无精打采。
△在充满噪音的都市丛林里，你几乎快乐不起来。此时，你不妨抽空到乡间走一趟。吸口新鲜空气，闻闻泥土芳香，看看翠绿大地，听听大自然的奏鸣曲——蝉声、鸟声、溪水声……你将会有不一样的感觉。
△英格丽·褒曼说过，健康的身体加上不好的记忆，会让我们活得更快乐。的确，世上的闲言闲语实在太多了，不值得让它们留在脑海中。
△如果你对目前拥有的一切觉得不满，等到你拥有更多时，也不见得会快乐。
△每天做一件令别人愉快的事，自己也会特别快乐。
△功名利禄，只能带给我们短暂的快乐；惟有平静的心灵加上对工作的热爱，才能带给我们永恒的喜悦。
△想要获得快乐，不是增加财富，而是降低欲望。
△自私自利的人永远找不到快乐。
△快乐是一种宝贵的资源，不能光是享用，而不去发掘。
△把快乐的香水喷洒在别人身上时，总有几滴溅到自己。
△大忙人往往是最快乐的人，因为他没时间去想自己快不快乐。
△快乐有一点像感冒——传染得很快。
△如果我们只是纯粹想追求个人的快乐，这个愿望很容易达成；但如果我们希望比别人快乐，就太难了，因为我们总认为别人比我们快乐。
△有人说，要让自己快乐，最好的方法是先令别人快乐。
△快乐是成功的副产品。
△你只要生气一分钟，便丧失了60秒钟的快乐。
△每天像无头苍蝇一般在找寻快乐的人，最后总是一无所获。原因是快乐并非无所不在，而是要靠自己去制造。
△如果各国领袖晚上睡觉时，能多做美梦，少做恶梦的话，这个世界将充满更多快乐。
△爱自己只会让我们更孤独，爱别人会让我们更快乐。
△快乐是发现汽车两刷夹的是一张广告，而不是罚单。
△如果快乐不能与人分享，这不算是真正的快乐了。
△快乐是一种心境，跟财富、年龄与环境无关。
△如果快乐可以用钱买到，大多数人都会因价格贵得离谱而不快乐。
△从来不懂得心存感激的人，绝对体验不出快乐的真谛。
△如何才能得到快乐?抛弃仇恨、远离烦恼、生活简单、淡泊名利、常设身处地为别人着想、笑口常开、心中有爱。
△为了寻找快乐，你走遍了千山万水，始终见不到它的踪影。其实只要你拥有一颗知足的心，快乐就在你身上。
△若想得到快乐，就别让自己过得无精打采。
△在充满噪音的都市丛林里，你几乎快乐不起来。此时，你不妨抽空到乡间走一趟。吸口新鲜空气，闻闻泥土芳香，看看翠绿大地，听听大自然的奏鸣曲——蝉声、鸟声、溪水声……你将会有不一样的感觉。
△英格丽·褒曼说过，健康的身体加上不好的记忆，会让我们活得更快乐。的确，世上的闲言闲语实在太多了，不值得让它们留在脑海中。
△如果你对目前拥有的一切觉得不满，等到你拥有更多时，也不见得会快乐。
△每天做一件令别人愉快的事，自己也会特别快乐。
△功名利禄，只能带给我们短暂的快乐；惟有平静的心灵加上对工作的热爱，才能带给我们永恒的喜悦。
△想要获得快乐，不是增加财富，而是降低欲望。
△自私自利的人永远找不到快乐。
△快乐是一种宝贵的资源，不能光是享用，而不去发掘。
△把快乐的香水喷洒在别人身上时，总有几滴溅到自己。
△大忙人往往是最快乐的人，因为他没时间去想自己快不快乐。
△快乐有一点像感冒——传染得很快。
Monday, November 24, 2008
Life is a GIFT
Today before you say an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak.
Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.
Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who died too early on this earth.
Before you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.
Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets.
Before whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.
And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and think: you're alive and still around.
Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.
Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who died too early on this earth.
Before you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.
Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets.
Before whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.
And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and think: you're alive and still around.
Story to Live By
There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.
He asked her,'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.
Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'
This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.
He asked her,'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.
Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'
This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.
Friday, November 14, 2008
我们只不方便三小时
那天跟老公幸运地订到了票回婆家，上车后却发现有位女士坐在我们的位子上，老公示意我先坐在她旁边的位子，却没有请这位女士让位。我仔细一看，发现她右脚有一点不方便，才了解老公为何不请她让出位子。
他就这样从嘉义一直站到台北，从头到尾都没向这位女士表示这个位子是他的，下了车之后，心疼老公的我对他说：“让位是善行，但从嘉义到台北这么久，大可中途请她把位子还给你，换你坐一下。”
老公却说：“人家不方便一辈子，我们就不方便这三小时而已。”听到老公这么说，我相当感动，有这么一位善良又善不欲人知的好老公，让我觉得世界变得温柔许多。
心念一转，世界可能从此不同，人生中，每一件事情，都有转向的能力，就看我们怎么想，怎么转。
我们不会在三分钟内成功，但也许只要花一分钟，生命从此不同。
我们不一定会因为赚得很多的钱而富有，但我们可以因付出的善念而使心中富有。
他就这样从嘉义一直站到台北，从头到尾都没向这位女士表示这个位子是他的，下了车之后，心疼老公的我对他说：“让位是善行，但从嘉义到台北这么久，大可中途请她把位子还给你，换你坐一下。”
老公却说：“人家不方便一辈子，我们就不方便这三小时而已。”听到老公这么说，我相当感动，有这么一位善良又善不欲人知的好老公，让我觉得世界变得温柔许多。
心念一转，世界可能从此不同，人生中，每一件事情，都有转向的能力，就看我们怎么想，怎么转。
我们不会在三分钟内成功，但也许只要花一分钟，生命从此不同。
我们不一定会因为赚得很多的钱而富有，但我们可以因付出的善念而使心中富有。
纯真的心
有一个小镇很久没有下雨了，令当地农作物损失惨重，于是牧师把大家集合起来，准备在教堂里开一个祈求降雨的祷告会。
众中有一个小女孩，因个子太小，几乎没有人看得到她，但她也来参加祈雨祷告会。
就在这时候，牧师注意到小女孩所带来的东西，激动地在台上指着她说：“那位小妹妹很让我感动！”于是大家顺着他手指的方向看了过去。
牧师接着说：“我们今天来祷告祈求上帝降雨，可是整个会堂中，只有她一个人今天带着雨伞！”大家仔细一看，果然，她的座位旁挂了一把红色的雨伞。
这是大家沉静了一下，紧接而来的，是一阵掌声与泪水交织的美景。
有时我们不得不说：小孩子其实一点都不‘小’，他们其实很‘大’！他们的爱心很大！他们的信心很大！
众中有一个小女孩，因个子太小，几乎没有人看得到她，但她也来参加祈雨祷告会。
就在这时候，牧师注意到小女孩所带来的东西，激动地在台上指着她说：“那位小妹妹很让我感动！”于是大家顺着他手指的方向看了过去。
牧师接着说：“我们今天来祷告祈求上帝降雨，可是整个会堂中，只有她一个人今天带着雨伞！”大家仔细一看，果然，她的座位旁挂了一把红色的雨伞。
这是大家沉静了一下，紧接而来的，是一阵掌声与泪水交织的美景。
有时我们不得不说：小孩子其实一点都不‘小’，他们其实很‘大’！他们的爱心很大！他们的信心很大！
小孩的心
有一位单身女子刚搬了家，她发现隔壁住了一户穷人家，一个寡妇与两个小孩子。
有天晚上，那一带忽然停了电，那位女子只好自己点起了蜡烛。没一会儿，忽然听到有人敲门。
原来是隔壁邻居的小孩子，只见他紧张的问：“阿姨，请问你家有蜡烛吗？”
女子心想：他们家究竟穷到蜡烛也没有吗？千万别借他们，免得被他们依赖了！
于是，对孩子吼了一声说：“没有！”
正当她准备关上门时，那穷小孩展开关爱的笑容说：“我就知道你家一定没有！”说完，竟从怀里拿出两根蜡烛，说：“妈妈和我怕你一个人住又没有蜡烛，所以我带两根来送你。”
此刻女子自责、感动得热泪盈眶，将那小孩子紧紧地拥在怀里。
有天晚上，那一带忽然停了电，那位女子只好自己点起了蜡烛。没一会儿，忽然听到有人敲门。
原来是隔壁邻居的小孩子，只见他紧张的问：“阿姨，请问你家有蜡烛吗？”
女子心想：他们家究竟穷到蜡烛也没有吗？千万别借他们，免得被他们依赖了！
于是，对孩子吼了一声说：“没有！”
正当她准备关上门时，那穷小孩展开关爱的笑容说：“我就知道你家一定没有！”说完，竟从怀里拿出两根蜡烛，说：“妈妈和我怕你一个人住又没有蜡烛，所以我带两根来送你。”
此刻女子自责、感动得热泪盈眶，将那小孩子紧紧地拥在怀里。
Saturday, November 8, 2008
和另一女人約會
結婚了廿一年後，我發現了一種別出心裁的方法,可以讓愛的火花永保新鮮。
不久以前 ，我和另一位女士約會，其實那還是我妻子的主意。
有一天她說：「我知道妳很愛她。」我很驚訝，立刻爭辯說：「但我愛的是妳呀！」「我知道，但你也愛她呀！」
我妻子要我去看的女士是我的母親。她已經寡居了十九年，然而我忙碌的工作和身為二個孩子父親的責任，令我分身乏術，以致很少有時間和她相聚。
那晚，我打電話給她，邀約她第二天和我一起吃晚餐和看電影。
「怎麼了，你還好嗎？」她問道。
母親是那種會認為晚上那麼晚打電話，又突然邀約她，一定不會有什麼好事的人。「我想如果有機會和妳單獨約會，一定很有意思。」我回答。
她想了一會兒，然後說：「我非常樂意。」
那個星期五下班以後，我開車去接她時，心裡有一點緊張，因為從未嚐試過這樣的約會。
當我到達她家時，我看她對這樣的約會，似乎也有一點緊張。她在門內等著，身上穿著大衣，裡面那件禮服還是最後一次慶祝結婚紀念日所穿的呢！她的頭髮還特意捲了一下，臉上的微笑像天使一般。上了車後，她得意洋洋地說：「我告訴我的朋友，我要和我的兒子外出約會，他們都好羨慕，迫不及待要聽聽我們約會的情形。」
我們去一家雖不豪華，但十分雅致，溫暖舒適的餐廳。我母親挽住我的臂彎，好像第一夫人一般。入座以後，我必須幫她看菜單點菜，因為她的眼睛現在只有大的字才看得見。用餐一半時，我抬起頭來，看到母親正在凝視我，嘴角帶著懷舊的笑容說：「記得當你小時候，總是我為你看菜單的。」「那現在妳正好可以休息，輪到我來為妳服務了。」我回答。
一面享用晚餐，我們一面聊天，聊得很愉快，談了許多最近幾年來，各自生命中的一些事。我們聊得太久了，所以趕不上電影。當我送她回到家門口，她說「我要再和你一起外出，但下次讓我作東好嗎？」我答應了。
回家後，妻子問我：「你的晚餐約會如何？」「非常有意思，比我想像的好多了！」 我回答。
幾天以後，母親因心臟病猝發而去世。這事發生得太突然了，讓我完全措手不及。不久以後，我收到一封信，裡面是上次我和母親約會的那家餐館的一張收據，上面有一張字條寫著：「我已先付了賬，因為我確定自己不可能再有機會去了，但我還是付了兩人份的賬──你和你的妻子。你絕對想不到那一晚的約會對我有多大的意義，我愛你。」
從那一刻起，我深深體會，一定要及時說：「我愛你」，並且要常常撥出時間給我們所愛的人。世上沒有任何事比自然如來因緣和你的家庭更重要，多花時間和他們在一起，因為這事絕不能拖延到「以後有時間再說 ...」。
「樹欲靜而風不止，子欲養而親不待」 是人生一大憾事。
不久以前 ，我和另一位女士約會，其實那還是我妻子的主意。
有一天她說：「我知道妳很愛她。」我很驚訝，立刻爭辯說：「但我愛的是妳呀！」「我知道，但你也愛她呀！」
我妻子要我去看的女士是我的母親。她已經寡居了十九年，然而我忙碌的工作和身為二個孩子父親的責任，令我分身乏術，以致很少有時間和她相聚。
那晚，我打電話給她，邀約她第二天和我一起吃晚餐和看電影。
「怎麼了，你還好嗎？」她問道。
母親是那種會認為晚上那麼晚打電話，又突然邀約她，一定不會有什麼好事的人。「我想如果有機會和妳單獨約會，一定很有意思。」我回答。
她想了一會兒，然後說：「我非常樂意。」
那個星期五下班以後，我開車去接她時，心裡有一點緊張，因為從未嚐試過這樣的約會。
當我到達她家時，我看她對這樣的約會，似乎也有一點緊張。她在門內等著，身上穿著大衣，裡面那件禮服還是最後一次慶祝結婚紀念日所穿的呢！她的頭髮還特意捲了一下，臉上的微笑像天使一般。上了車後，她得意洋洋地說：「我告訴我的朋友，我要和我的兒子外出約會，他們都好羨慕，迫不及待要聽聽我們約會的情形。」
我們去一家雖不豪華，但十分雅致，溫暖舒適的餐廳。我母親挽住我的臂彎，好像第一夫人一般。入座以後，我必須幫她看菜單點菜，因為她的眼睛現在只有大的字才看得見。用餐一半時，我抬起頭來，看到母親正在凝視我，嘴角帶著懷舊的笑容說：「記得當你小時候，總是我為你看菜單的。」「那現在妳正好可以休息，輪到我來為妳服務了。」我回答。
一面享用晚餐，我們一面聊天，聊得很愉快，談了許多最近幾年來，各自生命中的一些事。我們聊得太久了，所以趕不上電影。當我送她回到家門口，她說「我要再和你一起外出，但下次讓我作東好嗎？」我答應了。
回家後，妻子問我：「你的晚餐約會如何？」「非常有意思，比我想像的好多了！」 我回答。
幾天以後，母親因心臟病猝發而去世。這事發生得太突然了，讓我完全措手不及。不久以後，我收到一封信，裡面是上次我和母親約會的那家餐館的一張收據，上面有一張字條寫著：「我已先付了賬，因為我確定自己不可能再有機會去了，但我還是付了兩人份的賬──你和你的妻子。你絕對想不到那一晚的約會對我有多大的意義，我愛你。」
從那一刻起，我深深體會，一定要及時說：「我愛你」，並且要常常撥出時間給我們所愛的人。世上沒有任何事比自然如來因緣和你的家庭更重要，多花時間和他們在一起，因為這事絕不能拖延到「以後有時間再說 ...」。
「樹欲靜而風不止，子欲養而親不待」 是人生一大憾事。
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Miracles
Miracles happen daily, if we only open our eyes, our ears, our minds and hearts to this wonderful gift of God.
When we open our eyes and see the sun rising, when someone smiles at us and we feel good, that is a miracle.
When in the midst of troubles we can still laugh, when we can still love in the midst of strife and division, when we can still trust when everyone seems to distrust each other...these are the big and little miracles that surround us daily.
When we open our eyes and see the sun rising, when someone smiles at us and we feel good, that is a miracle.
When in the midst of troubles we can still laugh, when we can still love in the midst of strife and division, when we can still trust when everyone seems to distrust each other...these are the big and little miracles that surround us daily.
Friday, October 17, 2008
Quotes from famous people
If we cannot love the person whom we see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? - Mother Theresa
If you win you need not explain...but if you lose you should not be there to explain. - Adolph Hitler
If you start judging people you will be having no time to love them - Mother Theresa
I'm not in competition with anybody but myself...my goal is to beat my last performance. - Bill Gates
Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world...if you do so, you are insulting yourself. - Alen Strike
Never explain yourself to anyone...because the person who likes you does not need it...and the person who dislikes you won't believe it. - unknown
The dream is not what you see in sleep...dream is which does not let you sleep. - Dr Abdul Kalam (Former President of the Republic of India)
No man is rich enough to buy his past. - Oscar Wilde
If you want real peace, don't talk to your friends...talk with your enemies. - Mother Theresa
Winning doesn't mean always being first...winning means you're doing better than you've done before. - Bonnie Blaire
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. - Leo Tolstoy
I will not say I failed 1000 times, I will say that I discovered there are 1000 ways that can cause failure. - Thomas Edison
Never break four things in your life: Trust, Promise, Relationship and Heart. Because when they break they don't make noise but a lot of pain. - Charles
In a day, when you don't come across any problems you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path. - Swami Vivekananda
Three sentences for getting success: Know more than others, work more than others, expect less from others. - William Shakespeare
Love your job but never fall in love with your company because you never know when it stops loving you. - Dr Abdul Kalam
If someone feels that they had never made a mistake in their life, then it means they had never tried a new thing in their life. - Albert Einstein
If you win you need not explain...but if you lose you should not be there to explain. - Adolph Hitler
If you start judging people you will be having no time to love them - Mother Theresa
I'm not in competition with anybody but myself...my goal is to beat my last performance. - Bill Gates
Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world...if you do so, you are insulting yourself. - Alen Strike
Never explain yourself to anyone...because the person who likes you does not need it...and the person who dislikes you won't believe it. - unknown
The dream is not what you see in sleep...dream is which does not let you sleep. - Dr Abdul Kalam (Former President of the Republic of India)
No man is rich enough to buy his past. - Oscar Wilde
If you want real peace, don't talk to your friends...talk with your enemies. - Mother Theresa
Winning doesn't mean always being first...winning means you're doing better than you've done before. - Bonnie Blaire
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. - Leo Tolstoy
I will not say I failed 1000 times, I will say that I discovered there are 1000 ways that can cause failure. - Thomas Edison
Never break four things in your life: Trust, Promise, Relationship and Heart. Because when they break they don't make noise but a lot of pain. - Charles
In a day, when you don't come across any problems you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path. - Swami Vivekananda
Three sentences for getting success: Know more than others, work more than others, expect less from others. - William Shakespeare
Love your job but never fall in love with your company because you never know when it stops loving you. - Dr Abdul Kalam
If someone feels that they had never made a mistake in their life, then it means they had never tried a new thing in their life. - Albert Einstein
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
From now on...
1. From now on, every time anyone asks you how you are, the out loud answer is always and forever a very, very positive positive! [Great! Terrific! Fantastic!] No matter how you really feel! It doesn't matter, you are trying to change you!
2. From now on, you commit to taking full and total responsibility for your circumstances, your results and how you feel! It will always be your responsibility and that of your brain cells and no one else's!
3. From now on, you will always learn new things everyday!
4. From now on, you will stop yourself from completing any and every negative thought or words, and turn them into a positive, before you go on to anything else!
5. From now on, you will always everyday do something new, strange, crazy, silly, out of the box, embarassing, or that is otherwise 'not like you'.
6. From now on, you will always, set a goal by putting it down in writing.
7. From now on, you will willingly and eagerly fail at something important everyday - and learn from it!
8. From now on, you will everyday of your life, tell at least two people that you love them. (one should always be you, even if you don't believe it yet!)
9. From now on, you will everyday of your life, do an exercise regimen for your brain or your body (preferably both!)
10. From now on, you will stop and look to see what everyone else is doing, and then choose to probably do the opposite!
2. From now on, you commit to taking full and total responsibility for your circumstances, your results and how you feel! It will always be your responsibility and that of your brain cells and no one else's!
3. From now on, you will always learn new things everyday!
4. From now on, you will stop yourself from completing any and every negative thought or words, and turn them into a positive, before you go on to anything else!
5. From now on, you will always everyday do something new, strange, crazy, silly, out of the box, embarassing, or that is otherwise 'not like you'.
6. From now on, you will always, set a goal by putting it down in writing.
7. From now on, you will willingly and eagerly fail at something important everyday - and learn from it!
8. From now on, you will everyday of your life, tell at least two people that you love them. (one should always be you, even if you don't believe it yet!)
9. From now on, you will everyday of your life, do an exercise regimen for your brain or your body (preferably both!)
10. From now on, you will stop and look to see what everyone else is doing, and then choose to probably do the opposite!
Monday, October 13, 2008
Have a nice day =)
Be warm and tender, thoughtful and affectionate.
Rare is true love, true friendship is still rarer.
We pardon as long as we love.
Troubles are like washing machine,
They twist, turn and knock us around,
but in the end we come out brighter than before!
Past is Experience,
Present is Experiment,
Future is Expectation.
Use your Experience in your Experiment to achieve your Expectations!
Rare is true love, true friendship is still rarer.
We pardon as long as we love.
Troubles are like washing machine,
They twist, turn and knock us around,
but in the end we come out brighter than before!
Past is Experience,
Present is Experiment,
Future is Expectation.
Use your Experience in your Experiment to achieve your Expectations!
Reflecting on old age
Old Age, I decided, is a gift.
I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!), but I don't agonize over those things for long.
I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.
I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.
Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 & 70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love... I will.
I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.
They, too, will get old. I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.
Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.
I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.
As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.
So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).
I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!), but I don't agonize over those things for long.
I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.
I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.
Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 & 70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love... I will.
I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.
They, too, will get old. I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.
Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.
I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.
As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.
So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).
-unknown-
Saturday, October 11, 2008
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Friday, October 3, 2008
Carrots, Eggs & Coffee
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, 'Tell me what you see.'
'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?'
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you acarrot, an egg or a coffee bean?'
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but aftera death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling when everyone around you is crying.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, 'Tell me what you see.'
'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?'
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you acarrot, an egg or a coffee bean?'
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but aftera death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling when everyone around you is crying.
为什么人生气时说话用喊的
有一天一个有智慧的教授问他的学生以下的问题：
“为什么人生气时说话用喊的？”
所有的学生都想了很久，其中有一个学生说：“因为我们丧失了‘冷静’，所以我们会用喊的。”
教授又问：“那么为什么别人就在你旁边而已，你还是用喊的，难道不能小声地说吗？为什么总是要用喊的？”
几乎所有的学生都七嘴八舌地说了一堆，但是没有一个答案是让教授满意的。
最后教授解释说：“当两个人在生气的时候，心的距离是很远的，而为了掩盖当中的距离使对方能够听见，于是必须用喊的，但是在喊的同时人会更生气，更生气距离就更远，距离更远就又要喊更大声……”
教授接着继续说：“而当两个人在相恋时会怎么样呢？情况刚好相反，不但不会用喊的，而且说话都很轻声细语，为什么？因为他们的心很接近，心与心之间几乎没有距离，所以相恋中的两个人通常是耳语式的说话，但是心中的爱因而更深，到后来根本不需要言语，只用眼神就可以传情，而那时心与心之间早已经没有所谓的距离了……”
最后教授做了一个结论：“当两个人争吵时，不要让心的距离变远，更不要说些让心距离更远的话，自然的过了几天，等到心的距离已经比较没有远时，再好好地说吧！”
“为什么人生气时说话用喊的？”
所有的学生都想了很久，其中有一个学生说：“因为我们丧失了‘冷静’，所以我们会用喊的。”
教授又问：“那么为什么别人就在你旁边而已，你还是用喊的，难道不能小声地说吗？为什么总是要用喊的？”
几乎所有的学生都七嘴八舌地说了一堆，但是没有一个答案是让教授满意的。
最后教授解释说：“当两个人在生气的时候，心的距离是很远的，而为了掩盖当中的距离使对方能够听见，于是必须用喊的，但是在喊的同时人会更生气，更生气距离就更远，距离更远就又要喊更大声……”
教授接着继续说：“而当两个人在相恋时会怎么样呢？情况刚好相反，不但不会用喊的，而且说话都很轻声细语，为什么？因为他们的心很接近，心与心之间几乎没有距离，所以相恋中的两个人通常是耳语式的说话，但是心中的爱因而更深，到后来根本不需要言语，只用眼神就可以传情，而那时心与心之间早已经没有所谓的距离了……”
最后教授做了一个结论：“当两个人争吵时，不要让心的距离变远，更不要说些让心距离更远的话，自然的过了几天，等到心的距离已经比较没有远时，再好好地说吧！”
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
The 'be' attitudes
Be understanding to your percevied enemies.
Be loyal to your friends.
Be strong enough to face the world each day.
Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.
Be generous to those who need your help.
Be frugal with that you need yourself.
Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.
Be foolish enough to believe in miracles.
Be willing to share your joys.
Be willing to share the sorrow of others.
Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.
Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty.
Be first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.
Be last to criticize a colleague who fails.
Be sure where you next step will fall, so that you will not tumble.
Be sure of your final destination, in case you are going the wrong way.
Be loving to those who love you.
Be loving to those who do not love you; they may change.
Above all, be yourself.
Be loyal to your friends.
Be strong enough to face the world each day.
Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.
Be generous to those who need your help.
Be frugal with that you need yourself.
Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.
Be foolish enough to believe in miracles.
Be willing to share your joys.
Be willing to share the sorrow of others.
Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.
Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty.
Be first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.
Be last to criticize a colleague who fails.
Be sure where you next step will fall, so that you will not tumble.
Be sure of your final destination, in case you are going the wrong way.
Be loving to those who love you.
Be loving to those who do not love you; they may change.
Above all, be yourself.
Shake it off and take a step up!
One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.
Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realised what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quited down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that his his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.
As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
Moral: Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.
2. Free your mind from worries - most never happenes.
3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less from people but more from God.
Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realised what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quited down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that his his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.
As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
Moral: Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.
2. Free your mind from worries - most never happenes.
3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less from people but more from God.
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Good morning
Good morning, I'm your angel;
Let's start this brand new day!
I'll add a bit of heaven,
to help you on your way.
I'll help you open sleepy eyes,
enable you to see,
sunshine-jewels in the morning light,
so priceless, yet they're free.
I'll cause the morning birds to sing,
and then I'll take their songs,
and place them all into your heart...
to cheer you all day long.
I'll help you find your lost car keys,
the work that you brought home...
and as you're walking out of the door,
you won't go alone.
For I'll be right beside you...
breathe deep, you'll feel me here.
I'm that invigorating tingle,
held in the morning air.
As you go about your day,
Please know that this is true...
There's nothing you can't overcome,
For I'll be there with you.
Let's start this brand new day!
I'll add a bit of heaven,
to help you on your way.
I'll help you open sleepy eyes,
enable you to see,
sunshine-jewels in the morning light,
so priceless, yet they're free.
I'll cause the morning birds to sing,
and then I'll take their songs,
and place them all into your heart...
to cheer you all day long.
I'll help you find your lost car keys,
the work that you brought home...
and as you're walking out of the door,
you won't go alone.
For I'll be right beside you...
breathe deep, you'll feel me here.
I'm that invigorating tingle,
held in the morning air.
As you go about your day,
Please know that this is true...
There's nothing you can't overcome,
For I'll be there with you.
Sunday, September 28, 2008
6 core virtues to positive psychology
1. Wisdom
2. Love
3. Courage
4. Justice
5. Temperance
6. Spirituality
2. Love
3. Courage
4. Justice
5. Temperance
6. Spirituality
7 Deadly Sins
1. Wealth without work
2. Pleasure without conscience
3. Knowledge without character
4. Commerce without morale (ethics)
5. Science without humanity
6. Religion without sacrifice
7. Politics without principle
- Steven Covey
2. Pleasure without conscience
3. Knowledge without character
4. Commerce without morale (ethics)
5. Science without humanity
6. Religion without sacrifice
7. Politics without principle
- Steven Covey
7 Habits of Highly effective people
1. Be proactive.
2. Begin with the end in mind.
3. Put first things first.
4. Think win-win.
5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
6. Synergy.
7. Sharpen the saw.
- Steven Covey
2. Begin with the end in mind.
3. Put first things first.
4. Think win-win.
5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
6. Synergy.
7. Sharpen the saw.
- Steven Covey
Saturday, September 27, 2008
朋友就是……
一个人可以毫无道理跟你做一辈子亲戚，但一个人不会毫无道理跟你做一辈子朋友。
我会想起，与你们认识的种种……
也会想起，发生过的点点滴滴……
直到我们都年老时，是否会像现在这样……坐在电脑前互诉心声？
不管如何……希望我们永远是真诚相对的朋友（知己）……
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朋友，是你高兴时想跟他分享的；
朋友，是你不高兴时可以给你发脾气的；
朋友，也是在你没钱开饭时打救你的；
朋友，是你闷得发荒时可以和你一起发荒的；
朋友，会甘愿给你功课抄，跟你一同出猫一同被人罚的；
朋友，也是你买手信时，想买一份打的给他的；
朋友，也是你看见他上线时，想给他“喔噢！”
朋友就是无形中伴你走过风雨，永远支持你的力量
朋友就是一种无法言喻的美好感觉
朋友就是在别人面前永远护着你的那个人
朋友就是即使是一点点小感动，一点小事情都想一起分享
朋友就是当你抱头痛哭的时候，扶着你肩膀的那个人
朋友就是当你面对人生挫折时，一直紧握你那双手
你能够看到他是你与他的缘分
你能够和你身边的人做朋友也是你与他的缘分
纵使你不知道这颗流星会何时消失
但若你好好珍惜看到这流星的每一刻
那就算流星走了你也不会后悔
让大家好好珍惜身边的每一个人
珍惜这段友谊！
我会想起，与你们认识的种种……
也会想起，发生过的点点滴滴……
直到我们都年老时，是否会像现在这样……坐在电脑前互诉心声？
不管如何……希望我们永远是真诚相对的朋友（知己）……
xxxxxxxxx
朋友，是你高兴时想跟他分享的；
朋友，是你不高兴时可以给你发脾气的；
朋友，也是在你没钱开饭时打救你的；
朋友，是你闷得发荒时可以和你一起发荒的；
朋友，会甘愿给你功课抄，跟你一同出猫一同被人罚的；
朋友，也是你买手信时，想买一份打的给他的；
朋友，也是你看见他上线时，想给他“喔噢！”
朋友就是无形中伴你走过风雨，永远支持你的力量
朋友就是一种无法言喻的美好感觉
朋友就是在别人面前永远护着你的那个人
朋友就是即使是一点点小感动，一点小事情都想一起分享
朋友就是当你抱头痛哭的时候，扶着你肩膀的那个人
朋友就是当你面对人生挫折时，一直紧握你那双手
你能够看到他是你与他的缘分
你能够和你身边的人做朋友也是你与他的缘分
纵使你不知道这颗流星会何时消失
但若你好好珍惜看到这流星的每一刻
那就算流星走了你也不会后悔
让大家好好珍惜身边的每一个人
珍惜这段友谊！
珍惜现在
忙的时候，想要休息；
渡假的时候，想到未来。
穷的时候，渴望富有；
生活安逸了，怕幸福不能长久。
该决定的时候，担心结果不如预期；
看明白了，后悔当初没有下定决心。
不属于自己的，常常心存欲望；
握在手里了，又怀念未拥有的轻松。
生活若不是现在，那是何时？
渡假的时候，想到未来。
穷的时候，渴望富有；
生活安逸了，怕幸福不能长久。
该决定的时候，担心结果不如预期；
看明白了，后悔当初没有下定决心。
不属于自己的，常常心存欲望；
握在手里了，又怀念未拥有的轻松。
生活若不是现在，那是何时？
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Share your strength
Don't shy away from challenges...facing them is the only way you can improve.
Look inside for your strength, then share that strength with others.
Always maintain your sense of humour, share it with others when things get too intense.
Make the play first, then decide if it was possible.
Admit your mistakes. It shows character and inner strength.
Remember, loyalty is a two-way street.
Look inside for your strength, then share that strength with others.
Always maintain your sense of humour, share it with others when things get too intense.
Make the play first, then decide if it was possible.
Admit your mistakes. It shows character and inner strength.
Remember, loyalty is a two-way street.
Monday, September 22, 2008
Friends..
God made the world with a heart full of love,
Then He looked down from Heaven above.
And saw that we all need a helping hand.
Someone to share with, who'll understand,
He made speacial people to see us through
The glad times and the sad times, too;
A person on whom we can always depend,
Someone we can call a friend.
Then He looked down from Heaven above.
And saw that we all need a helping hand.
Someone to share with, who'll understand,
He made speacial people to see us through
The glad times and the sad times, too;
A person on whom we can always depend,
Someone we can call a friend.
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Quotes quotes quotes
Someone's boring me. I think it's me. - Dylan Thomas
I shut my eyes in order to see. - Paul Gauguin (1848-1903)
There's no point in being grown up if you can't be childish sometimes. - Doctor Who
A ship in harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are built for. - William Shedd
Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings. - Samuel Johnson
Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute. - Josh Billings
You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her. - Anon
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is. - Albert Einstein
I love acting. It is so much more real than life. - Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)
The toughest part of getting to the top of the ladder, is getting through the crowd at the bottom.
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.
Deeds, not words shall speak me - John Fletcher
A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer. - Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)
I shut my eyes in order to see. - Paul Gauguin (1848-1903)
There's no point in being grown up if you can't be childish sometimes. - Doctor Who
A ship in harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are built for. - William Shedd
Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings. - Samuel Johnson
Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute. - Josh Billings
You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her. - Anon
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is. - Albert Einstein
I love acting. It is so much more real than life. - Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)
The toughest part of getting to the top of the ladder, is getting through the crowd at the bottom.
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.
Deeds, not words shall speak me - John Fletcher
A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer. - Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
More friendship quotes
Friendship is a single soul living in two bodies. - Aristotle
True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable. - Dyan Tyson Gentry
The secret to friendship is being a good listener.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument. A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after you've had a fight.
I cannot concentrate all my friendship on any single one of my friends because no one is complete enough in himself. - Anais Nin
Friendship is the union of spirits, a marriage of hearts, and the bond thereof virtue. - William Penn's Fruits of Solitude
That friendship will not continue to the end which is begun for an end. - Francis Quareles
The friendship between me and you
I will not compare to a chain;
for that rains might rust,
or the falling tree might break. - William Penn's Treaty with the Indians
Friendship often ends in love, but love in friendship - never. - Charles Caleb Colton
True friendship is never serene. - Marquise de Sevigne
True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable. - Dyan Tyson Gentry
The secret to friendship is being a good listener.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument. A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after you've had a fight.
I cannot concentrate all my friendship on any single one of my friends because no one is complete enough in himself. - Anais Nin
Friendship is the union of spirits, a marriage of hearts, and the bond thereof virtue. - William Penn's Fruits of Solitude
That friendship will not continue to the end which is begun for an end. - Francis Quareles
The friendship between me and you
I will not compare to a chain;
for that rains might rust,
or the falling tree might break. - William Penn's Treaty with the Indians
Friendship often ends in love, but love in friendship - never. - Charles Caleb Colton
True friendship is never serene. - Marquise de Sevigne
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Rainbow
Rainbows would never be rainbows
If sunshine had never met rain
No one would ever need comfort
If there was no sadness and pain
But life holds both sunshine and showers
The days aren't all bright and fair
So look through the showers for the rainbows
You'll always find hope shining there
If sunshine had never met rain
No one would ever need comfort
If there was no sadness and pain
But life holds both sunshine and showers
The days aren't all bright and fair
So look through the showers for the rainbows
You'll always find hope shining there
That is Friendship
Far away but always near,
I hold your relationship very clear...
Ever together but never apart...
You'll always be in my heart as my friend.
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The thread asked the candle,
why you dissolve yourself when I burn.
The candle said, when those who are in my heart suffer,
I am bound to shed tears....
That is Friendship
I hold your relationship very clear...
Ever together but never apart...
You'll always be in my heart as my friend.
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The thread asked the candle,
why you dissolve yourself when I burn.
The candle said, when those who are in my heart suffer,
I am bound to shed tears....
That is Friendship
Friday, September 12, 2008
把握
一頓歷時89分鐘, 價值274元的晚餐。一對男女戀人步出餐廳。
男的吃這頓飯吃得好辛苦, 因他85分鐘都用了來想著公司的那份計劃書該怎樣做, 幸好女的一點也不發覺他心不在焉。
女的對男的說:「現在不算太晚, 你不用送我了, 我自己回家吧。」明天就要交計劃書的男友,'立刻答:「好呀! 那你小心點了, 回家致電給我吧。再見。」
男的飛快回家, 去埋首他的工作, 他不停的做直致電話響起。他看看鐘原來已經半夜三時許, 是誰這麼夜來電'他接過電話, 原來是他的未來外母:「我女兒現在還沒回家,你不是和她去了吃飯嗎? 她怎樣了, 我好怕......」
男的才記起女的說回到家後會致電他報平安, 但現在已經夜半二、三時她為什麼還不回家。男的心亂如麻, 最後還是報警求助。
去到警局, 警員問他: [ 她失蹤時的衣著是...」
男的:「這...她......想不起來...」
警員:「不打緊,你先放鬆一下, 那衣服的顏色總會記得吧..藍色? 紅色?」
男的:「我...我只想著份計劃書, 吃飯也低下頭...我不曾看過她的...」
警員:「她的髮型呢? 長髮? 短髮?」
男的:「我跟她一起很多年了...我所以...怎麼她的東西我一點也想不起...」
警員:「你說她是你女友, 你們最近很少見面嗎? 怎會連髮型也不知道,那她有帶首飾, 手袋嗎?」
男的也是無言以對。
離開警局, 男的覺得很驚訝,驚訝他對女友的'不上心'。
多年來他已把愛情的感覺當成一種習慣, 就連對他的女友也'習以為常', 已經不把她放在心上了。
已過了三天, 女的還是音訊全無, 這三天男的除了擔心女友的安危, 就是不停的想:「她的髮型、她的衣著, 我怎會不知道的! 我一定要記起來!」
這夜, 男的經過一條幽黑、灰暗的長街, 竟看見女的就站在長街的盡頭。
男的高興得跑向她,想緊緊的擁抱她。但走到女友的面前他就改變了主意, 他雙手按著女友的肩膊,說:「等一下,先不要動。讓我看清楚你, 你的頭髮、你的衣著, 我要好好的記著。回想起那晚, 其實是你發現我還有工作在身, 想我早點回家工作而叫我不用送你的。一直以來只有你還關心我的感受, 而我卻不理會你。但不要緊,我已知道應怎樣去愛你、珍惜你。相信我, 你的一切一切今後都會常在我心中的。」
女的:「你終於都懂得理會我的感受, 懂得珍惜我了...可惜已經太遲......」
男的忽然醒過來, 原來剛才的是一場夢。
夢醒後男的努力去想, 夢中女友的衣著、髮型, 但還是記不起來.....
隔天, 男的終於再見到他的女友, 就是在警員帶他到殮房認屍的時候......望著躺在停屍間的女友, 男的哭著說:「我終於知道你的髮型, 衣著, 我現在才真正的看真你。我會記著的, 永遠都會記著的... 我剛想到要珍惜你...你醒醒呀...不要就這樣離開我好嗎......」
男的剛學會珍惜, 卻已後悔莫及。現在他除了哭泣, 就什麼都做不了......
也許你常發現我一直凝望著你! 你問我看什麼呢？ 我笑笑的回答....沒什麼, 只是想將你的一切記在心裏, 在見不到你時細細回味..........
男的吃這頓飯吃得好辛苦, 因他85分鐘都用了來想著公司的那份計劃書該怎樣做, 幸好女的一點也不發覺他心不在焉。
女的對男的說:「現在不算太晚, 你不用送我了, 我自己回家吧。」明天就要交計劃書的男友,'立刻答:「好呀! 那你小心點了, 回家致電給我吧。再見。」
男的飛快回家, 去埋首他的工作, 他不停的做直致電話響起。他看看鐘原來已經半夜三時許, 是誰這麼夜來電'他接過電話, 原來是他的未來外母:「我女兒現在還沒回家,你不是和她去了吃飯嗎? 她怎樣了, 我好怕......」
男的才記起女的說回到家後會致電他報平安, 但現在已經夜半二、三時她為什麼還不回家。男的心亂如麻, 最後還是報警求助。
去到警局, 警員問他: [ 她失蹤時的衣著是...」
男的:「這...她......想不起來...」
警員:「不打緊,你先放鬆一下, 那衣服的顏色總會記得吧..藍色? 紅色?」
男的:「我...我只想著份計劃書, 吃飯也低下頭...我不曾看過她的...」
警員:「她的髮型呢? 長髮? 短髮?」
男的:「我跟她一起很多年了...我所以...怎麼她的東西我一點也想不起...」
警員:「你說她是你女友, 你們最近很少見面嗎? 怎會連髮型也不知道,那她有帶首飾, 手袋嗎?」
男的也是無言以對。
離開警局, 男的覺得很驚訝,驚訝他對女友的'不上心'。
多年來他已把愛情的感覺當成一種習慣, 就連對他的女友也'習以為常', 已經不把她放在心上了。
已過了三天, 女的還是音訊全無, 這三天男的除了擔心女友的安危, 就是不停的想:「她的髮型、她的衣著, 我怎會不知道的! 我一定要記起來!」
這夜, 男的經過一條幽黑、灰暗的長街, 竟看見女的就站在長街的盡頭。
男的高興得跑向她,想緊緊的擁抱她。但走到女友的面前他就改變了主意, 他雙手按著女友的肩膊,說:「等一下,先不要動。讓我看清楚你, 你的頭髮、你的衣著, 我要好好的記著。回想起那晚, 其實是你發現我還有工作在身, 想我早點回家工作而叫我不用送你的。一直以來只有你還關心我的感受, 而我卻不理會你。但不要緊,我已知道應怎樣去愛你、珍惜你。相信我, 你的一切一切今後都會常在我心中的。」
女的:「你終於都懂得理會我的感受, 懂得珍惜我了...可惜已經太遲......」
男的忽然醒過來, 原來剛才的是一場夢。
夢醒後男的努力去想, 夢中女友的衣著、髮型, 但還是記不起來.....
隔天, 男的終於再見到他的女友, 就是在警員帶他到殮房認屍的時候......望著躺在停屍間的女友, 男的哭著說:「我終於知道你的髮型, 衣著, 我現在才真正的看真你。我會記著的, 永遠都會記著的... 我剛想到要珍惜你...你醒醒呀...不要就這樣離開我好嗎......」
男的剛學會珍惜, 卻已後悔莫及。現在他除了哭泣, 就什麼都做不了......
也許你常發現我一直凝望著你! 你問我看什麼呢？ 我笑笑的回答....沒什麼, 只是想將你的一切記在心裏, 在見不到你時細細回味..........
珍惜......
★ 好好珍惜 ★
看到一個深愛著你的人為你而改變
因為愛你，他收起他的頑固脾氣
因為愛你，他對別人都以感謝的心
因為愛你，他把你的興趣也變成是他的興趣
喜歡一個人是沒有原因的
他無悔的付出，都認為是值得的，只要能和相愛的人在一起...
其實我們的身邊都有一些這樣的人，只是我們還沒發現...
最懂你的人，總是會一直的在你身邊守護你，不讓你有一絲的委屈...
真正愛你的人，不會說許多愛你的話卻會做許多愛你的事...
如果你身邊有這樣的人的話，請你好好珍惜...........
★ 給在戀愛中及想戀愛的男女 ★
女生的心很脆弱~~~
常因為你的小體貼而感動，如果你一直對我好 我可能就會喜歡你
女生的感情很豐富~~~
喜歡你的我，會毫不保留的付出，天真的認為有天你就會懂女生的心很容易受傷~~~
所以我不輕易說出口~~~假如期望落空了，傷心難過很不好受
女生的心很倔強 ~~~
總希望你先說，如果你也猶豫不決...
或許我們就這樣錯過...再來後悔為何當初不說......
男生的心很脆弱~~~
常常因為妳的小動作而心碎，如果妳一直若即若離，我怎麼敢喜歡妳
男生的心思很細密~~~
喜歡妳的我，會不計一切的付出，單純的以為你會懂得珍惜
男生的愛很不容易說出口~~~
因為一旦說出口，或許再也沒有或許了，彼此悲傷見面真的很不好受
男生的心很懦弱~~~
總怕傷心而緊閉雙唇，或許一打開雙唇盡吐心語後
就會後悔當初為何不乖乖沉靜在那片刻的幸福中.....
看到一個深愛著你的人為你而改變
因為愛你，他收起他的頑固脾氣
因為愛你，他對別人都以感謝的心
因為愛你，他把你的興趣也變成是他的興趣
喜歡一個人是沒有原因的
他無悔的付出，都認為是值得的，只要能和相愛的人在一起...
其實我們的身邊都有一些這樣的人，只是我們還沒發現...
最懂你的人，總是會一直的在你身邊守護你，不讓你有一絲的委屈...
真正愛你的人，不會說許多愛你的話卻會做許多愛你的事...
如果你身邊有這樣的人的話，請你好好珍惜...........
★ 給在戀愛中及想戀愛的男女 ★
女生的心很脆弱~~~
常因為你的小體貼而感動，如果你一直對我好 我可能就會喜歡你
女生的感情很豐富~~~
喜歡你的我，會毫不保留的付出，天真的認為有天你就會懂女生的心很容易受傷~~~
所以我不輕易說出口~~~假如期望落空了，傷心難過很不好受
女生的心很倔強 ~~~
總希望你先說，如果你也猶豫不決...
或許我們就這樣錯過...再來後悔為何當初不說......
男生的心很脆弱~~~
常常因為妳的小動作而心碎，如果妳一直若即若離，我怎麼敢喜歡妳
男生的心思很細密~~~
喜歡妳的我，會不計一切的付出，單純的以為你會懂得珍惜
男生的愛很不容易說出口~~~
因為一旦說出口，或許再也沒有或許了，彼此悲傷見面真的很不好受
男生的心很懦弱~~~
總怕傷心而緊閉雙唇，或許一打開雙唇盡吐心語後
就會後悔當初為何不乖乖沉靜在那片刻的幸福中.....
Dog thoughts
The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail instead of his tongue. - Anonymous
There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face. - Ben Williams
A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself. - Josh Billings
The average dog is a nicer person than the average person. - Andy Rooney
Dogs love their friends and bite their enemies, quite unlike people. - Anonymous
Anybody who doesn't know what soap tastes like never washed a dog. - Franklin P. Jones
If your dog is fat, you aren't getting enough exercise. - Unknown
My dog is worried about the economy because the Alpo is up to $3 a can. That's almost $21 in dog money. - Joe Weinstein
Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea. - Robert A. Heinlein
If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you; that is the principal difference between a dog and a man. - Mark Twain
Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole. - Roger Caras
If you think dogs can't count, try putting three dog biscuits in your pocket and then give him only two of them. - Phil Pastoret
There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face. - Ben Williams
A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself. - Josh Billings
The average dog is a nicer person than the average person. - Andy Rooney
Dogs love their friends and bite their enemies, quite unlike people. - Anonymous
Anybody who doesn't know what soap tastes like never washed a dog. - Franklin P. Jones
If your dog is fat, you aren't getting enough exercise. - Unknown
My dog is worried about the economy because the Alpo is up to $3 a can. That's almost $21 in dog money. - Joe Weinstein
Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea. - Robert A. Heinlein
If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you; that is the principal difference between a dog and a man. - Mark Twain
Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole. - Roger Caras
If you think dogs can't count, try putting three dog biscuits in your pocket and then give him only two of them. - Phil Pastoret
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Reasons to like a woman
You can feel her care in the form of a sister
You can feel her warmth in the form of a friend
You can feel her passion in the form of a beloved
You can feel her dedication in the form of a wife
You can feel her divinity in the form of a mother
You can feel her blessings in the form of a grandmother
Yet she is so tough too...
Her heart is so tender...
So naughty...
So charming...
So sharing...
So melodious...
She is a woman
She is life
Respect her.
You can feel her warmth in the form of a friend
You can feel her passion in the form of a beloved
You can feel her dedication in the form of a wife
You can feel her divinity in the form of a mother
You can feel her blessings in the form of a grandmother
Yet she is so tough too...
Her heart is so tender...
So naughty...
So charming...
So sharing...
So melodious...
She is a woman
She is life
Respect her.
Love your parents
"The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before.
The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new."
"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realise that you control your own destiny."
"I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life."
"Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible."
"How pleasant it is for a father to sit at his child's board. It is like an aged man reclining under the shadow of an oak which he has planted."
The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new."
"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realise that you control your own destiny."
"I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life."
"Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible."
"How pleasant it is for a father to sit at his child's board. It is like an aged man reclining under the shadow of an oak which he has planted."
最真的爱（百合）
那么静静的空气里，依旧散发出不凡的气息！
那么冷冷的氛围里，依旧是在风中生姿摇曳！
那么凄凄的情境里，依旧传达了祝福的心意！
那么危危的悬崖里，依旧绽放着生命的美丽！
即使，早已失去关爱的眼神
即使，早已失去青春的容颜
那纯白的身影，依然挺立
那洁净的心灵，依然如昔
那无价的付出，依然给予
那是爱的祝福，爱的真意……
那么冷冷的氛围里，依旧是在风中生姿摇曳！
那么凄凄的情境里，依旧传达了祝福的心意！
那么危危的悬崖里，依旧绽放着生命的美丽！
即使，早已失去关爱的眼神
即使，早已失去青春的容颜
那纯白的身影，依然挺立
那洁净的心灵，依然如昔
那无价的付出，依然给予
那是爱的祝福，爱的真意……
Friday, September 5, 2008
知道你有多幸运吗？
如果你今天早上醒来时
还算健康，恭喜你，因为有一百万人将活不过一星期。
如果你不曾经理战争的危险、
被监禁的寂寞、
被凌虐的痛苦、
或是饥寒交迫，
恭喜你，你比五亿人还好命。
如果你可以参加宗教活动
而不必担心被骚扰、
逮捕、凌虐、或死亡，
恭喜你，你比15亿人还自由。
如果你的冰箱里有食物、
有衣服穿、还有地方住，
恭喜你，你比全世界70%的人还富有。
如果你在银行有存款、
钱包里有钞票、
还有一些零钱，
恭喜你，你是全世界前10%的有钱人。
如果你的双亲还健在，
而且没有离婚，
你算是幸运儿。
如果你经常抬头带着微笑，
而且心中感谢老天，
你是幸福的，
因为大部分的人可以办到却不这么做。
如果你会握住某人的手、
或给他们一个拥抱、
或是拍拍他们的肩膀，
恭喜你，因为你是具有愈合人们心灵的能力。
如果你可以读到这篇文章，
那是双重幸运：
有人想到你这个朋友，
而且有15一人根本不识字。
你大概从来没想到过
自己是那么幸福吧？！
还算健康，恭喜你，因为有一百万人将活不过一星期。
如果你不曾经理战争的危险、
被监禁的寂寞、
被凌虐的痛苦、
或是饥寒交迫，
恭喜你，你比五亿人还好命。
如果你可以参加宗教活动
而不必担心被骚扰、
逮捕、凌虐、或死亡，
恭喜你，你比15亿人还自由。
如果你的冰箱里有食物、
有衣服穿、还有地方住，
恭喜你，你比全世界70%的人还富有。
如果你在银行有存款、
钱包里有钞票、
还有一些零钱，
恭喜你，你是全世界前10%的有钱人。
如果你的双亲还健在，
而且没有离婚，
你算是幸运儿。
如果你经常抬头带着微笑，
而且心中感谢老天，
你是幸福的，
因为大部分的人可以办到却不这么做。
如果你会握住某人的手、
或给他们一个拥抱、
或是拍拍他们的肩膀，
恭喜你，因为你是具有愈合人们心灵的能力。
如果你可以读到这篇文章，
那是双重幸运：
有人想到你这个朋友，
而且有15一人根本不识字。
你大概从来没想到过
自己是那么幸福吧？！
爱情……
爱的感觉，总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜，
总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，
你终于不再孤单了，至少有一个人想着你、恋着你，
不论做什么事情，
只要能一起，就是好的，
但是慢慢的，随着彼此的认识愈深，
你开始发现了对方的缺点，
于是问题一个接着一个发生，
你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，
有人说爱情就像在捡石头，
总想捡到一个适合自己的，
但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？
她适合你，那你又适合她吗？
其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，
或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，
但是记住人是有弹性的，
很多事情是可以改变的，
只要你有心、有勇气，
与其到处去捡未知的石头，
还不如好好的将就？
* 在某个聚餐的场合，有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好，这时候有个中年男人忽然说：“十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳叻！”
听到了吗？明白了吗？
难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。
因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。
如果每个人都
懒得讲话、
懒得倾听、
懒得制造惊喜、
懒得温柔体贴，
那么夫妻或是情人之间，
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？
所以请记住：
有活力的爱情，
是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，
谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！
*有一对情侣，相约下班后去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了，当她冒着雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，她的男朋友很不高兴的说：“你每次都这样，现在我什么心情也没了，我以后再也不会等你了！”刹那间，女孩终于决堤崩溃了，她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了。
*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的出境；女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，她的男朋友说：“我想你一定忙坏了吧！”接着他为女孩抹去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上，此刻，女孩流泪了，但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。
你体会到了吗？
*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！
爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时，很多事可能只是在于你心境的转变罢了！
懂了吗？
当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错。
那并不代表你会选择他。
*我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。
但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，
你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。
*没错，我们总是认为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。
可是后来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。
假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？
其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之后才会发现的。
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣。
但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发现而已呢？
所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！
他或许已经等你很久喽！
*当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。
所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分又来爱自己。
如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来，完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
*所以请记住，
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
爱一个人不要超过八分
*那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？
我笑着跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！
*如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
要道歉，也要道谢；
要认错，也要改错；
要体贴，也要体谅；
是接受，而不是忍受；
是宽容，而不是纵容；
是支持，而不是支配；
是慰问，而不是质问；
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
是为对方默默祈求，而不是向对方诸多要求；
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，
你终于不再孤单了，至少有一个人想着你、恋着你，
不论做什么事情，
只要能一起，就是好的，
但是慢慢的，随着彼此的认识愈深，
你开始发现了对方的缺点，
于是问题一个接着一个发生，
你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，
有人说爱情就像在捡石头，
总想捡到一个适合自己的，
但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？
她适合你，那你又适合她吗？
其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，
或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，
但是记住人是有弹性的，
很多事情是可以改变的，
只要你有心、有勇气，
与其到处去捡未知的石头，
还不如好好的将就？
* 在某个聚餐的场合，有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好，这时候有个中年男人忽然说：“十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳叻！”
听到了吗？明白了吗？
难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。
因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。
如果每个人都
懒得讲话、
懒得倾听、
懒得制造惊喜、
懒得温柔体贴，
那么夫妻或是情人之间，
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？
所以请记住：
有活力的爱情，
是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，
谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！
*有一对情侣，相约下班后去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了，当她冒着雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，她的男朋友很不高兴的说：“你每次都这样，现在我什么心情也没了，我以后再也不会等你了！”刹那间，女孩终于决堤崩溃了，她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了。
*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的出境；女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，她的男朋友说：“我想你一定忙坏了吧！”接着他为女孩抹去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上，此刻，女孩流泪了，但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。
你体会到了吗？
*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！
爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时，很多事可能只是在于你心境的转变罢了！
懂了吗？
当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错。
那并不代表你会选择他。
*我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。
但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，
你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。
*没错，我们总是认为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。
可是后来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。
假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？
其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之后才会发现的。
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣。
但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发现而已呢？
所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！
他或许已经等你很久喽！
*当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。
所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分又来爱自己。
如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来，完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
*所以请记住，
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
爱一个人不要超过八分
*那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？
我笑着跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！
*如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
要道歉，也要道谢；
要认错，也要改错；
要体贴，也要体谅；
是接受，而不是忍受；
是宽容，而不是纵容；
是支持，而不是支配；
是慰问，而不是质问；
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
是为对方默默祈求，而不是向对方诸多要求；
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
The Woman
When God created woman He was working late on the 6th day. An angel came by and said, 'Why spend so much time on that one?'
And the Lord answered, 'Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?
She must be washable, but not made of plastic, have more than 200 moving parts which all must be replaceable and she must function on all kinds of foood, she must be able to embrace several kids at the same time, give a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart and she must do all this with only two hands.'
The angel was impressed.
'Just two hands...impossible! And this is the standard model?!
Too much work for one day...wait until tomorrow and then complete her.'
'I will not,' said the Lord. 'I am so close to complete this creation, which will be the favourite of my heart.
She cures herself when sick and she can work 18 hours a day.'
The angel came nearer and touched the woman.
'But you have made her so soft, Lord.'
'She is soft,' said the Lord, 'But I have also made her strong. You can't imagine what she can endure and overcome.'
'Can she think?' the angel asked.
The Lord answered, 'Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate.'
The angel touched the woman's cheek...
'Lord, it seems this creatioin is leaking! You have put too many burdens on her.'
'She is not leaking...it's a tear,' the Lord corrected the angel.
'What's it for?' asked the angel.
And the Lord said, 'Tears are her way of expressing grief, her doubts, her love, her loneliness, her suffering and her pride.'
This made a big impression on the angel, 'Lord, You are genius. You thought of everything. The woman is indeed marvellous!'
Indeed she is!
Woman has strengths that amaze man. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens.
She holds happiness, love and opinions.
She smiles when feeling like screaming.
She sings when she feels like crying, cries when she is happy and laughs when she is afraid.
She fights for what she believes in.
She stands up against injustice.
She doesn't take 'no' for an answer, when she can see a better solution.
She gives herself so her family can thrive.
She takes her friend to the doctor if she is afriad.
Her love is unconditional.
She cries when her kids are victorious.
She is happy when her friends do well.
She is glad when she hears of a birth or a wedding.
Her heart is broken when a next of kin or friend dies.
But she finds the strength to get on with life.
She knows that a kiss and a hug can heal a broken heart.
There is only one thing wrong with her
She forgets what she is worth...
And the Lord answered, 'Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?
She must be washable, but not made of plastic, have more than 200 moving parts which all must be replaceable and she must function on all kinds of foood, she must be able to embrace several kids at the same time, give a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart and she must do all this with only two hands.'
The angel was impressed.
'Just two hands...impossible! And this is the standard model?!
Too much work for one day...wait until tomorrow and then complete her.'
'I will not,' said the Lord. 'I am so close to complete this creation, which will be the favourite of my heart.
She cures herself when sick and she can work 18 hours a day.'
The angel came nearer and touched the woman.
'But you have made her so soft, Lord.'
'She is soft,' said the Lord, 'But I have also made her strong. You can't imagine what she can endure and overcome.'
'Can she think?' the angel asked.
The Lord answered, 'Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate.'
The angel touched the woman's cheek...
'Lord, it seems this creatioin is leaking! You have put too many burdens on her.'
'She is not leaking...it's a tear,' the Lord corrected the angel.
'What's it for?' asked the angel.
And the Lord said, 'Tears are her way of expressing grief, her doubts, her love, her loneliness, her suffering and her pride.'
This made a big impression on the angel, 'Lord, You are genius. You thought of everything. The woman is indeed marvellous!'
Indeed she is!
Woman has strengths that amaze man. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens.
She holds happiness, love and opinions.
She smiles when feeling like screaming.
She sings when she feels like crying, cries when she is happy and laughs when she is afraid.
She fights for what she believes in.
She stands up against injustice.
She doesn't take 'no' for an answer, when she can see a better solution.
She gives herself so her family can thrive.
She takes her friend to the doctor if she is afriad.
Her love is unconditional.
She cries when her kids are victorious.
She is happy when her friends do well.
She is glad when she hears of a birth or a wedding.
Her heart is broken when a next of kin or friend dies.
But she finds the strength to get on with life.
She knows that a kiss and a hug can heal a broken heart.
There is only one thing wrong with her
She forgets what she is worth...
Friday, August 22, 2008
Friends =D
Friends give us the courage to lift the blinds on our hearts, to open up and show what we generally keep hidden from the rest of the world.
Friends gives us security in knowing our secrets will be protected and will not be broadcast from the rooftops.
Friends put a smile on our faces and a spring in our step.
Friends make each day a new beginning filled with wonder and joy.
Friends put laughter in our hearts after we have been overwhelmed by grief.
Friends give us the inspiration to reach for our dreams.
Friends bring us back to earth if we get a little too full by ourselves.
Friends gives us security in knowing our secrets will be protected and will not be broadcast from the rooftops.
Friends put a smile on our faces and a spring in our step.
Friends make each day a new beginning filled with wonder and joy.
Friends put laughter in our hearts after we have been overwhelmed by grief.
Friends give us the inspiration to reach for our dreams.
Friends bring us back to earth if we get a little too full by ourselves.
Before you...
Before you speak...listen
Before you write...think
Before you spend...earn
Before you criticise...wait
Before you pray...forgive
Before you quit...try
Before you write...think
Before you spend...earn
Before you criticise...wait
Before you pray...forgive
Before you quit...try
Thursday, August 21, 2008
One
One song can spark a moment,
One flower can wake the dream.
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.
One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One star can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal.
One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room.
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.
One step must start each journey,
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care.
One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what's true.
One life can make a difference,
You see, it's up to you!
One flower can wake the dream.
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.
One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One star can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal.
One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room.
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.
One step must start each journey,
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care.
One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what's true.
One life can make a difference,
You see, it's up to you!
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Wonderful thoughts
Take time once in a while to just enjoy the moment...
Remember, your mother thinks you're cute, even if no one else does.
Always try to do what you are taught, it can sometimes lead to beautiful things...
Try to give a gentle lift to a friend in need...
Search for the best route to what you're hoping for...
No goal is too hard to attain when you persevere.
Sometimes it's better to watch from a distance and plan your next move carefully.
Remember, your mother thinks you're cute, even if no one else does.
Always try to do what you are taught, it can sometimes lead to beautiful things...
Try to give a gentle lift to a friend in need...
Search for the best route to what you're hoping for...
No goal is too hard to attain when you persevere.
Sometimes it's better to watch from a distance and plan your next move carefully.
ABCs of motivation
Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits.
Believe in yourself.
Consider things from every angle.
Don't give up and don't give in.
Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come.
Family and friends are hidden treasures: enjoy their riches.
Give more than you planned to.
Hang on to your dreams.
Ignore those who try to discourage you.
Just do it.
Keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier.
Love yourself first and most.
Make it happen.
Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.
Open your eyes and see things as they really are.
Practice makes perfect.
Quitters never win and winners never quit.
Read, study and learn about everything important in your life.
Stop procrastinating.
Take control of your own destiny.
Understand yourself in order to understand others better.
Visualize it.
Want it more than anything.
Xcellerate your efforts.
You are unique of all God's creations, nothing can replace you.
Zero in on your target and go for it!
Believe in yourself.
Consider things from every angle.
Don't give up and don't give in.
Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come.
Family and friends are hidden treasures: enjoy their riches.
Give more than you planned to.
Hang on to your dreams.
Ignore those who try to discourage you.
Just do it.
Keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier.
Love yourself first and most.
Make it happen.
Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.
Open your eyes and see things as they really are.
Practice makes perfect.
Quitters never win and winners never quit.
Read, study and learn about everything important in your life.
Stop procrastinating.
Take control of your own destiny.
Understand yourself in order to understand others better.
Visualize it.
Want it more than anything.
Xcellerate your efforts.
You are unique of all God's creations, nothing can replace you.
Zero in on your target and go for it!
Sunday, August 17, 2008
5 great lessons
First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady
During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one: 'What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?' Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?
I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. 'Absolutely,' said the professor. 'In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say 'hello.'
I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain
One night, at11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him.
Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached...It read: 'Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.' Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.
Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. 'How much is an ice cream sundae?' he asked. 'Fifty cents,' replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. 'Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?' he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. 'Thirty-five cents,' she brusquely replied the little boy again counted his coins. 'I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.
When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.
Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!
Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.
Fifth Important Lesson - Giving when it Counts...
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness.
The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, 'Yes I'll do it, if it will save her.'
As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, 'Will I start to die right away?' Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.
During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one: 'What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?' Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?
I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. 'Absolutely,' said the professor. 'In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say 'hello.'
I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain
One night, at11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him.
Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached...It read: 'Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.' Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.
Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. 'How much is an ice cream sundae?' he asked. 'Fifty cents,' replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. 'Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?' he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. 'Thirty-five cents,' she brusquely replied the little boy again counted his coins. 'I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.
When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.
Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!
Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.
Fifth Important Lesson - Giving when it Counts...
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness.
The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, 'Yes I'll do it, if it will save her.'
As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, 'Will I start to die right away?' Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Cracked pot
An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole, which she carried across her neck.
One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.
At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.
Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.
After 2 years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.
"I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house."
The old woman smiled, "Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and evry day while we walk back, you water them.
For two years I have been able to pick these beatufiul flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house."
Each of us has our own unique flaw...
But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.
You've just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.
To all my crackpot friends, have a great day and remember to smell the flowers, on your side of the path.
One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.
At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.
Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.
After 2 years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.
"I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house."
The old woman smiled, "Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and evry day while we walk back, you water them.
For two years I have been able to pick these beatufiul flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house."
Each of us has our own unique flaw...
But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.
You've just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.
To all my crackpot friends, have a great day and remember to smell the flowers, on your side of the path.
三个故事+哲理
和尚与屠夫
从前有一个和尚跟一个屠夫是好朋友。和尚天天早上要起来念经，而屠夫天天要起来杀猪。 为了不耽误他们早上的工作，是他们约定早上互相叫对方起床。 多年以后，和尚与屠夫相继去世了。屠夫去上天堂了，而和尚却下地狱了。 为什么? 因为屠夫天天作善事，叫和尚起来念经，相反地，和尚天天叫屠夫起来杀生……
小哲理：你做的东西是不是都是你认为对的，却不一定是对的。
一道终身受用的测试题
你开着一辆车。 在一个暴风雨的晚上。 你经过一个车站。 有三个人正在焦急的等公共汽车。一个是快要临死的老人，他需要马上去医院。一个是医生，他曾救过你的命，你做梦都想报答他。 还有一个女人/男人，她/他是你做梦都想嫁/娶的人，也许错过就没有了。 但你的车只能在坐下一个人，你会如何选择？我不知道这是不是一个对你性格的测试, 因为每一个回答都有他自己的原因。 老人快要死了，你首先应该先救他。 你也想让那个医生上车，因为他救过你，这是个好机会报答他。 还有就是你的梦中情人。错过了这个机会。你可能永远不能遇到一个让你这么心动的人了。
在200个应征者中，只有一个人被雇佣了，他并没有解释他的理由，他只是说了以下的话：
'给医生车钥匙，让他带着老人去医院，而我则留下来陪我的梦中情人一起等公车!'
每个人我认识的人都认为以上的回答是最好的，但没有一个人（包括我在内）一开始就想到。
小哲理：是否是因为我们从未想过要放弃我们手中已经拥有的优势（车钥匙）有时，如果我们能放弃一些我们的固执，狭隘，和一些优势的话，我们可能会得到更多。
皮鞋的来历
很久很久以前，人类都还赤着双脚走路。有一位国王到某个偏远的乡间旅行，因为路面崎岖不平，有很多碎石头，刺得他的脚又痛又麻。回到王宫后，他下了一道命令，要将国内的所有道路都铺上一层牛皮。他认为这样做，不只是为自己，还可造福他的人民，让大家走路时不再受刺痛之苦。但即使杀尽国内所有的牛，也筹措不到足够的皮革，而所花费的金钱、动用的人力，更不知凡几。虽然根本做不到，甚至还相当愚蠢，但因为是国王的命令，大家也只能摇头叹息。
一位聪明的仆人大胆向国王提出建言：「国王啊！为什么您要劳师动众，牺牲那么多头牛，花费那么多金钱呢？您何不只用两小片牛皮包住您的脚呢？」国王听了很惊讶，但也当下领悟，于是立刻收回成命，改采这个建议。据说，这就是「皮鞋」的由来。
小哲理：想改变世界，很难；要改变自己，则较为容易。与其改变全世界，不如先改变自己--「将自己的双脚包起来」。改变自己的某些观念和作法，以抵御外来的侵袭。当自己改变后，眼中的世界自然也就跟着改变了。如果你希望看到世界改变，那么第一个必须改变的就是自己。
「心若改变，态度就会改变；态度改变，习惯就改变；习惯改变，人生就会改变。」
从前有一个和尚跟一个屠夫是好朋友。和尚天天早上要起来念经，而屠夫天天要起来杀猪。 为了不耽误他们早上的工作，是他们约定早上互相叫对方起床。 多年以后，和尚与屠夫相继去世了。屠夫去上天堂了，而和尚却下地狱了。 为什么? 因为屠夫天天作善事，叫和尚起来念经，相反地，和尚天天叫屠夫起来杀生……
小哲理：你做的东西是不是都是你认为对的，却不一定是对的。
一道终身受用的测试题
你开着一辆车。 在一个暴风雨的晚上。 你经过一个车站。 有三个人正在焦急的等公共汽车。一个是快要临死的老人，他需要马上去医院。一个是医生，他曾救过你的命，你做梦都想报答他。 还有一个女人/男人，她/他是你做梦都想嫁/娶的人，也许错过就没有了。 但你的车只能在坐下一个人，你会如何选择？我不知道这是不是一个对你性格的测试, 因为每一个回答都有他自己的原因。 老人快要死了，你首先应该先救他。 你也想让那个医生上车，因为他救过你，这是个好机会报答他。 还有就是你的梦中情人。错过了这个机会。你可能永远不能遇到一个让你这么心动的人了。
在200个应征者中，只有一个人被雇佣了，他并没有解释他的理由，他只是说了以下的话：
'给医生车钥匙，让他带着老人去医院，而我则留下来陪我的梦中情人一起等公车!'
每个人我认识的人都认为以上的回答是最好的，但没有一个人（包括我在内）一开始就想到。
小哲理：是否是因为我们从未想过要放弃我们手中已经拥有的优势（车钥匙）有时，如果我们能放弃一些我们的固执，狭隘，和一些优势的话，我们可能会得到更多。
皮鞋的来历
很久很久以前，人类都还赤着双脚走路。有一位国王到某个偏远的乡间旅行，因为路面崎岖不平，有很多碎石头，刺得他的脚又痛又麻。回到王宫后，他下了一道命令，要将国内的所有道路都铺上一层牛皮。他认为这样做，不只是为自己，还可造福他的人民，让大家走路时不再受刺痛之苦。但即使杀尽国内所有的牛，也筹措不到足够的皮革，而所花费的金钱、动用的人力，更不知凡几。虽然根本做不到，甚至还相当愚蠢，但因为是国王的命令，大家也只能摇头叹息。
一位聪明的仆人大胆向国王提出建言：「国王啊！为什么您要劳师动众，牺牲那么多头牛，花费那么多金钱呢？您何不只用两小片牛皮包住您的脚呢？」国王听了很惊讶，但也当下领悟，于是立刻收回成命，改采这个建议。据说，这就是「皮鞋」的由来。
小哲理：想改变世界，很难；要改变自己，则较为容易。与其改变全世界，不如先改变自己--「将自己的双脚包起来」。改变自己的某些观念和作法，以抵御外来的侵袭。当自己改变后，眼中的世界自然也就跟着改变了。如果你希望看到世界改变，那么第一个必须改变的就是自己。
「心若改变，态度就会改变；态度改变，习惯就改变；习惯改变，人生就会改变。」
Monday, August 4, 2008
給自己生活的忠告：
§ 平時多吃些粗糧。
§ 給別人比他們自己期許的更多，
§ 用心去熟記你喜歡的詩歌，
§ 不要輕易相信你聽到的每件事，要小心證實。
§ 不要花光你的所有，留點備用。
§ 不要想睡多久就睡多久，光陰寶貴，適當就好。
§ 無論何時說 ' 我愛你 ' ，請真心實意。
§ 無論何時說 ' 對不起 ' ，請看著對方的眼睛。
§ 相信一見鍾情。
§ 永遠不要忽視別人的夢想。
§ 深情熱烈地愛，也許你會受傷，但這是使人生完整的唯一法。
§ 用一種明確的方法解決爭議，不要冒犯。
§ 永遠不要以貌取人。
§ 慢慢地說，但要迅速地想。
§ 深刻理解所有的規則，合理地更新它們。
§ 記住：最好的關係存在於對別人的愛勝於對別人的索求之上。
§ 回頭看看你發誓取得的目標，然後評判你到底有多成功。
§ 無論是烹調還是愛情，都用百分之百的負責態度對待，但是不要期求太多的回報。
§ 給別人比他們自己期許的更多，
§ 用心去熟記你喜歡的詩歌，
§ 不要輕易相信你聽到的每件事，要小心證實。
§ 不要花光你的所有，留點備用。
§ 不要想睡多久就睡多久，光陰寶貴，適當就好。
§ 無論何時說 ' 我愛你 ' ，請真心實意。
§ 無論何時說 ' 對不起 ' ，請看著對方的眼睛。
§ 相信一見鍾情。
§ 永遠不要忽視別人的夢想。
§ 深情熱烈地愛，也許你會受傷，但這是使人生完整的唯一法。
§ 用一種明確的方法解決爭議，不要冒犯。
§ 永遠不要以貌取人。
§ 慢慢地說，但要迅速地想。
§ 深刻理解所有的規則，合理地更新它們。
§ 記住：最好的關係存在於對別人的愛勝於對別人的索求之上。
§ 回頭看看你發誓取得的目標，然後評判你到底有多成功。
§ 無論是烹調還是愛情，都用百分之百的負責態度對待，但是不要期求太多的回報。
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Always remember
Always remember to forget
The things that made you sad.
But never forget to remember
The things that made you glad.
Always remember to forget
The friends that proved untrue.
But don't forget to remember
Those that have stuck by you.
Always remember to forget
The troubles that have passed away.
But never forget to remember
The blessings that come each day.
The things that made you sad.
But never forget to remember
The things that made you glad.
Always remember to forget
The friends that proved untrue.
But don't forget to remember
Those that have stuck by you.
Always remember to forget
The troubles that have passed away.
But never forget to remember
The blessings that come each day.
Sunday, July 27, 2008
女人的沈思
如果你老公很上進，妳要趕快跟上，否則會被他嫌棄。
如果你的老公很上進又進取，妳要趕快加油，否則會被他淘汰。
如果老公很頹廢，妳要自立又自強，否則會被他拖累。
如果小孩很聰明，妳要趕快學習，否則會被瞧不起。
如果孩子很遲鈍，妳要趕快成功，因為妳要照顧他一輩子。
無知的愛是傷害，無知的消費是浪費。
女人一成不變，男人一定會變。
要做千面女人，不要做鉛面女人。
要有三立：美麗＋能力＋魅力。
三瓶女人：花瓶， 醋瓶，藥瓶。
三美女人：形象美，語言美，心靈美。
千萬別做 ~~
三心女人，在家裡放心，想起來傷心，看起來噁心。
三轉女人：圍著鍋台轉 ，圍著先生轉，圍著孩子轉。
女人要有四立：思想獨立，能力獨力，交通獨立，經濟獨立。
女人要美的自然，而絕不是自然就是美。
漂亮美人像寶石，智慧女人像寶藏。
女人有氣質才會千種風情，萬種浪漫。
要得到別人的愛，首先要自己愛自己。
相愛不是互看對方的眼睛，而是要有共同的目標，理想，話題，朋友。
相愛容易相處難，相處容易相信難，相信容易相諒難。
行走在智慧中的女人最美麗，而要得到智慧就要走入人群中。
如果你的老公很上進又進取，妳要趕快加油，否則會被他淘汰。
如果老公很頹廢，妳要自立又自強，否則會被他拖累。
如果小孩很聰明，妳要趕快學習，否則會被瞧不起。
如果孩子很遲鈍，妳要趕快成功，因為妳要照顧他一輩子。
無知的愛是傷害，無知的消費是浪費。
女人一成不變，男人一定會變。
要做千面女人，不要做鉛面女人。
要有三立：美麗＋能力＋魅力。
三瓶女人：花瓶， 醋瓶，藥瓶。
三美女人：形象美，語言美，心靈美。
千萬別做 ~~
三心女人，在家裡放心，想起來傷心，看起來噁心。
三轉女人：圍著鍋台轉 ，圍著先生轉，圍著孩子轉。
女人要有四立：思想獨立，能力獨力，交通獨立，經濟獨立。
女人要美的自然，而絕不是自然就是美。
漂亮美人像寶石，智慧女人像寶藏。
女人有氣質才會千種風情，萬種浪漫。
要得到別人的愛，首先要自己愛自己。
相愛不是互看對方的眼睛，而是要有共同的目標，理想，話題，朋友。
相愛容易相處難，相處容易相信難，相信容易相諒難。
行走在智慧中的女人最美麗，而要得到智慧就要走入人群中。
Saturday, July 26, 2008
ABC of Happiness
Aspire to reach your potential
Believe in yourself
Create a good life
Dream about what you might become
Exercise frequently
Forgive honest mistakes
Glorify the creative spirit
Humour yourself and others
Imagine great things
Joyfully live each day
Kindly help others
Love one another
Meditate daily
Nurture the environment
Organize for harmonious action
Praise performance well done
Question most things
Regulate your own behaviour
Smile often
Think rationally
Understand yourself
Value life
Work for the common good
X-ray and carefully examine problems
Yearn to improve
Zestfully pursue happiness
Believe in yourself
Create a good life
Dream about what you might become
Exercise frequently
Forgive honest mistakes
Glorify the creative spirit
Humour yourself and others
Imagine great things
Joyfully live each day
Kindly help others
Love one another
Meditate daily
Nurture the environment
Organize for harmonious action
Praise performance well done
Question most things
Regulate your own behaviour
Smile often
Think rationally
Understand yourself
Value life
Work for the common good
X-ray and carefully examine problems
Yearn to improve
Zestfully pursue happiness
Friday, July 25, 2008
Coffee and Cups
The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.
A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said, 'If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.'
Now consider this:
'Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Enjoy your coffee!'
The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.
1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.
You are the miracle, my friend;
Your life either shines a light OR casts a shadow!
Shine a light & Enjoy the Coffee!!!
A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said, 'If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.'
Now consider this:
'Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Enjoy your coffee!'
The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.
1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.
You are the miracle, my friend;
Your life either shines a light OR casts a shadow!
Shine a light & Enjoy the Coffee!!!
When you are down...
Sometimes the pressure is so high,
The hours are so long,
The problems so big,
The whole world seems to be against you...
Do you know what you should do?
Act silly!
Don't listen to the ones who make you feel depressed!
Ignore your problems!
Do what you enjoy!
Make time for the things you love!
Leave your fears aside and...be a bit ridiculous!
Fight for perfection...but not to exhaustion!
And the most important: Life doesn't end today, and doesn't start tomorrow.
Don't stop! Each minute of stress is wasted time...
This is why I wish you: A little madness and a little imagination, so you can see life better than usual!
And don't forget: Smile! In life everything is nicer when you cheer up.
The hours are so long,
The problems so big,
The whole world seems to be against you...
Do you know what you should do?
Act silly!
Don't listen to the ones who make you feel depressed!
Ignore your problems!
Do what you enjoy!
Make time for the things you love!
Leave your fears aside and...be a bit ridiculous!
Fight for perfection...but not to exhaustion!
And the most important: Life doesn't end today, and doesn't start tomorrow.
Don't stop! Each minute of stress is wasted time...
This is why I wish you: A little madness and a little imagination, so you can see life better than usual!
And don't forget: Smile! In life everything is nicer when you cheer up.
Monday, July 21, 2008
Poem about morning
Morning is the best of
All times in the garden.
The sun is not yet hot.
Sweet vapors rise from the earth.
Night dew clings to the soiland
Makes plants glisten.
Birds call to one another.
Bees are already at work.
- William Longgood
All times in the garden.
The sun is not yet hot.
Sweet vapors rise from the earth.
Night dew clings to the soiland
Makes plants glisten.
Birds call to one another.
Bees are already at work.
- William Longgood
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
I feared....until...
I feared being alone...until I learned to like myself.
I feared failure...until I realised that I only fail when I don't try.
I feared success...until I realised that I had to try in order to be happy with myself.
I feared people's opinions...until I learned that people would have opinions about me anyway.
I feared rejection...until I learned to have faith in myself.
I feared pain...until I learned that it's necessary for growth.
I feared the truth...until I saw the ugliness in lies.
I feared life...until I experienced its beauty.
I feared death...until I realised that it's not an end, but a beginning.
I feared my destiny...until I realised that I had the power to change my life.
I feared hate...until I saw that it was nothing more than ignorance.
I feared love...until it touched my heart, making the darkness fade into endless sunny days.
I feared ridicule...until I learned how to laugh at myself.
I feared growing old...until I realised that I gained wisdom everyday.
I feared the future...until I realised that life just kept getting better.
I feared the past...until I realised that it could no longer hurt me.
I feared the dark...until I saw the beauty of the starlight.
I feared the light...until I learned that the truth would give me strength.
I feared change...until I saw that even the most beautiful butterfly had to undergo a metamorphosis before it could fly.
I feared failure...until I realised that I only fail when I don't try.
I feared success...until I realised that I had to try in order to be happy with myself.
I feared people's opinions...until I learned that people would have opinions about me anyway.
I feared rejection...until I learned to have faith in myself.
I feared pain...until I learned that it's necessary for growth.
I feared the truth...until I saw the ugliness in lies.
I feared life...until I experienced its beauty.
I feared death...until I realised that it's not an end, but a beginning.
I feared my destiny...until I realised that I had the power to change my life.
I feared hate...until I saw that it was nothing more than ignorance.
I feared love...until it touched my heart, making the darkness fade into endless sunny days.
I feared ridicule...until I learned how to laugh at myself.
I feared growing old...until I realised that I gained wisdom everyday.
I feared the future...until I realised that life just kept getting better.
I feared the past...until I realised that it could no longer hurt me.
I feared the dark...until I saw the beauty of the starlight.
I feared the light...until I learned that the truth would give me strength.
I feared change...until I saw that even the most beautiful butterfly had to undergo a metamorphosis before it could fly.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
A reason, a season or a lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
Someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a season, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
Someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a season, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
爱的故事
男孩和女孩初恋的时候﹐男孩为女孩折了一千只纸鹤﹐挂在女孩的房间里。男孩对女孩说﹐这一千只纸鹤﹐代表我一千份心意。
那时候﹐男孩和女孩分分秒秒都在感受着恋爱的甜蜜和幸福。
后来女孩渐渐疏远了男孩。女孩结婚了﹐去了法国﹐去了无数次 出现在她梦中的巴黎。女孩和男孩分手的时候﹐对男孩说﹐我们都必须正视现实﹐婚姻对女人来说是第二次投胎﹐我必须抓牢一切机会﹐ 你太穷﹐我难以想象我们结合在一起的日子……男孩在女孩去了法国 后﹐卖过报纸﹐干过临时工﹐做过小买卖﹐每一项工作他都努力去做 。许多年过去了﹐在朋友们的帮助和他自己的努力下﹐他终于有了自己的一家公司。他有钱了﹐可是他心里还是念念不忘女孩。
有一天下着雨﹐男孩从他的黑色奥迪车里看到一对老人在前面慢 慢地走。男孩认出那是女孩的父母﹐于是男孩决定跟着他们。他要让 他们看看自己不但拥有了小车﹐还拥有了别墅和公司，让他们知道他 不是穷光蛋﹐他是年轻的老板。男孩一路开慢车跟着他们。雨不停地下着﹐尽管这对老人打着伞﹐但还是被斜雨淋湿了。到了目的地﹐男孩呆了﹐这是一处公墓。他看到了女孩﹐墓碑的瓷像中女孩正对着他 甜甜地笑。而小小的墓旁﹐细细的铁丝上挂着一串串的纸鹤﹐在细雨中显得如此生动。
女孩的父母告诉男孩﹐女孩没有去巴黎﹐女孩患的是癌症﹐女孩去了天堂。女孩希望男孩能出人头地﹐能有一个温暖的家﹐所以女孩 才做出这样的举动。她说她了解男孩﹐认为他一定会成功的。女孩说 如果有一天男孩到墓地看她﹐请无论如何带上几只纸鹤。男孩跪下去﹐ 跪在女孩的墓前﹐泪流满面。清明节的雨不知道停﹐把男孩淋了个透。男孩想起了许多年前女孩纯真的笑脸﹐男孩看的心就开始一滴滴往下淌血。
这对老人走出墓地的时候﹐看到男孩站在不远处﹐奥迪的车门已经为老人打开。汽车音响里传出了哀怨的歌声﹐“我的心﹐不后悔﹐ 反反复复都是为了你﹐千纸鹤﹐千份情﹐在风里飞……”
http://www.game2p.com/story/
那时候﹐男孩和女孩分分秒秒都在感受着恋爱的甜蜜和幸福。
后来女孩渐渐疏远了男孩。女孩结婚了﹐去了法国﹐去了无数次 出现在她梦中的巴黎。女孩和男孩分手的时候﹐对男孩说﹐我们都必须正视现实﹐婚姻对女人来说是第二次投胎﹐我必须抓牢一切机会﹐ 你太穷﹐我难以想象我们结合在一起的日子……男孩在女孩去了法国 后﹐卖过报纸﹐干过临时工﹐做过小买卖﹐每一项工作他都努力去做 。许多年过去了﹐在朋友们的帮助和他自己的努力下﹐他终于有了自己的一家公司。他有钱了﹐可是他心里还是念念不忘女孩。
有一天下着雨﹐男孩从他的黑色奥迪车里看到一对老人在前面慢 慢地走。男孩认出那是女孩的父母﹐于是男孩决定跟着他们。他要让 他们看看自己不但拥有了小车﹐还拥有了别墅和公司，让他们知道他 不是穷光蛋﹐他是年轻的老板。男孩一路开慢车跟着他们。雨不停地下着﹐尽管这对老人打着伞﹐但还是被斜雨淋湿了。到了目的地﹐男孩呆了﹐这是一处公墓。他看到了女孩﹐墓碑的瓷像中女孩正对着他 甜甜地笑。而小小的墓旁﹐细细的铁丝上挂着一串串的纸鹤﹐在细雨中显得如此生动。
女孩的父母告诉男孩﹐女孩没有去巴黎﹐女孩患的是癌症﹐女孩去了天堂。女孩希望男孩能出人头地﹐能有一个温暖的家﹐所以女孩 才做出这样的举动。她说她了解男孩﹐认为他一定会成功的。女孩说 如果有一天男孩到墓地看她﹐请无论如何带上几只纸鹤。男孩跪下去﹐ 跪在女孩的墓前﹐泪流满面。清明节的雨不知道停﹐把男孩淋了个透。男孩想起了许多年前女孩纯真的笑脸﹐男孩看的心就开始一滴滴往下淌血。
这对老人走出墓地的时候﹐看到男孩站在不远处﹐奥迪的车门已经为老人打开。汽车音响里传出了哀怨的歌声﹐“我的心﹐不后悔﹐ 反反复复都是为了你﹐千纸鹤﹐千份情﹐在风里飞……”
http://www.game2p.com/story/
Friends, are everything
It's easy to take our friendship and each other for granted -
to forget what life would be like,
without each other to laugh with, to be with, to care about...
But whenever I slow down and give our friendship a thought,
I still feel that...it's one of the finest relationships I have and I still see the same sentiment reflecting in you!
You're my friend for life!
-----------------------------------
The Book defines a Friend as 'the one whom we know well and are fond of, intimate associate, close acquaintance, a supporter or sympathizer, someone who is not an enemy'...
People define a Friend as the one who stays faithful in times of dire need...
But I feel that friend is the one person who comes along, changes your existing into lining, becomes your everything and stays so far.
-----------------------------------
Good friends like you...
Make this world a brighter and a happier place.
You are really a pleasure to know and your timely presence and appreciation, are always admired.
Have a joyous life.
-----------------------------------
The sweetest of joys,
The loveliest of flowers,
The melodiest of songs,
can't compare to the beauty and specialness of our friendship...
-----------------------------------
It means a lot to have you as a friend:
You have become a part of my life.
I feel so comfortable with you
and the times we share are delightful.
And I know, no matter what,
I can always count on you...
to forget what life would be like,
without each other to laugh with, to be with, to care about...
But whenever I slow down and give our friendship a thought,
I still feel that...it's one of the finest relationships I have and I still see the same sentiment reflecting in you!
You're my friend for life!
-----------------------------------
The Book defines a Friend as 'the one whom we know well and are fond of, intimate associate, close acquaintance, a supporter or sympathizer, someone who is not an enemy'...
People define a Friend as the one who stays faithful in times of dire need...
But I feel that friend is the one person who comes along, changes your existing into lining, becomes your everything and stays so far.
-----------------------------------
Good friends like you...
Make this world a brighter and a happier place.
You are really a pleasure to know and your timely presence and appreciation, are always admired.
Have a joyous life.
-----------------------------------
The sweetest of joys,
The loveliest of flowers,
The melodiest of songs,
can't compare to the beauty and specialness of our friendship...
-----------------------------------
It means a lot to have you as a friend:
You have become a part of my life.
I feel so comfortable with you
and the times we share are delightful.
And I know, no matter what,
I can always count on you...
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
How to reduce stress
An angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.'
1. Pray or meditate.
2. Go to bed on time.
3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.
4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.
5. Delegate tasks to capable others.
6. Simplify and unclutter your life.
7. Less is more. Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.
8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.
9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.
10. Take one day at a time.
11. Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety. If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.
12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.
13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.
14. K.M.S (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.
16. Carry a Good Book with you to read while waiting in line.
17. Get enough rest.
18. Eat right.
19. Get organized so everything has its place.
20. Listen to a tape while driving can help improve your quality of life.
21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.
22. Every day, find time to be alone.
23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray.
24. Make friends with people you are comfortable with.
25. Keep a folder of favourtie scriptures or songs on hand.
26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good 'Thank You God'.
27. Laugh.
28. Laugh some more!
29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.
30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).
31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).
32. Sit on your ego.
33. Talk less, listen more.
34. Slow down.
35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.
36. Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. God has a way of turning things around for you.
"If God is for us, who can be against us?" (Romans 8:31)
1. Pray or meditate.
2. Go to bed on time.
3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.
4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.
5. Delegate tasks to capable others.
6. Simplify and unclutter your life.
7. Less is more. Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.
8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.
9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together.
10. Take one day at a time.
11. Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety. If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.
12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.
13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.
14. K.M.S (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.
16. Carry a Good Book with you to read while waiting in line.
17. Get enough rest.
18. Eat right.
19. Get organized so everything has its place.
20. Listen to a tape while driving can help improve your quality of life.
21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.
22. Every day, find time to be alone.
23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray.
24. Make friends with people you are comfortable with.
25. Keep a folder of favourtie scriptures or songs on hand.
26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good 'Thank You God'.
27. Laugh.
28. Laugh some more!
29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.
30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).
31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).
32. Sit on your ego.
33. Talk less, listen more.
34. Slow down.
35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.
36. Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. God has a way of turning things around for you.
"If God is for us, who can be against us?" (Romans 8:31)
Friday, June 27, 2008
If you want happiness
If you want happiness for an hour,
take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day,
go for a picnic.
If you want happiness for a week,
go on a vacation.
If you want happiness for a month,
get married.
If you want happiness for a year,
inherit wealth.
If you want happiness for a lifetime,
learn to love what you do.
take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day,
go for a picnic.
If you want happiness for a week,
go on a vacation.
If you want happiness for a month,
get married.
If you want happiness for a year,
inherit wealth.
If you want happiness for a lifetime,
learn to love what you do.
God gave me everything I needed
When I asked God for Strength
He gave me difficult situations to face
When I asked God for Brain and Brawn
He gave me puzzles in life to solve
When I asked God for Happiness
He showed me some unhappy people
When I asked God for Wealth
He showed me how to work hard
When I asked God for Favors
He showed me opportunities to work hard
When I asked God for Peace
He showed me how to help others
God gave me nothing I wanted
He gave me everything I needed
- Swami Vivekananda
He gave me difficult situations to face
When I asked God for Brain and Brawn
He gave me puzzles in life to solve
When I asked God for Happiness
He showed me some unhappy people
When I asked God for Wealth
He showed me how to work hard
When I asked God for Favors
He showed me opportunities to work hard
When I asked God for Peace
He showed me how to help others
God gave me nothing I wanted
He gave me everything I needed
- Swami Vivekananda
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Live today
Don't hurt anyone
It only takes a few seconds to hurt people you love, and it can take years to heal.
Live today!
There are two eternities that can really break you down - Yesterday and Tomorrow. One is gone and the other doesn't exist, so live today.
Value
What is the most valuable is not what you have in my life but who you have in your life.
Money
Money can buy everything but happiness...
Marriage
Do not marry a person that you know that you can live with; only marry someone that you cannot live without.
Trust
It takes years to build trust, and a few seconds to destroy it.
It only takes a few seconds to hurt people you love, and it can take years to heal.
Live today!
There are two eternities that can really break you down - Yesterday and Tomorrow. One is gone and the other doesn't exist, so live today.
Value
What is the most valuable is not what you have in my life but who you have in your life.
Money
Money can buy everything but happiness...
Marriage
Do not marry a person that you know that you can live with; only marry someone that you cannot live without.
Trust
It takes years to build trust, and a few seconds to destroy it.
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Quotes
Honesty is the cornerstone of all success, without which confidence and ability to perform shall cease to exist. - Mary Kay Ash
Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason in believe. It is not enough that a thing be positive for it to be believed. - Voltaire
Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untrapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born. - Dr. Dale Turner
It is important that you strive for humility, but not humiliation, for a cool, level-headed confidence, not a stiff, delusional arrogance. - Michael Johnson
People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within. - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
If we are to have real peace, we must begin with the children. - Mahatma Gandhi
Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it's a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from. - Al Franken
Failure is not a single, castaclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few erros in judgement, repeated everyday. - Jim Rohn
Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing. - Kim Rohn
Let fortune to her worst, whatever she makes us lose, so long as she never makes us lose our honesty and our independence. - Alexander Pope
The purpose of life is not to be happy, but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all. - Les Rosten
Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason in believe. It is not enough that a thing be positive for it to be believed. - Voltaire
Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untrapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born. - Dr. Dale Turner
It is important that you strive for humility, but not humiliation, for a cool, level-headed confidence, not a stiff, delusional arrogance. - Michael Johnson
People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within. - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
If we are to have real peace, we must begin with the children. - Mahatma Gandhi
Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it's a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from. - Al Franken
Failure is not a single, castaclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few erros in judgement, repeated everyday. - Jim Rohn
Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing. - Kim Rohn
Let fortune to her worst, whatever she makes us lose, so long as she never makes us lose our honesty and our independence. - Alexander Pope
The purpose of life is not to be happy, but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all. - Les Rosten
Beautiful words
Believe not only in yourself,
but believe in your friends as well for it is in the eyes of your friends that you discover yourself.
If somebody leaves you with lots of tears...save them safely.
Later when a person comes to you with happiness, compare the saved tears and present happiness.
If happiness overcomes your tears...the I am sure you have found your best friend.
Love is post paid, one month you don't pay, connection will be cut.
But friendship is life time prepaid whether you pay or not,
incoming is free for lifetime.
Birds that live in a lake will fly away when the lake dries up.
But the lotus in the same lake dies with the lake.
That's the commitment in relationships...
Friendship is like standing on wet cement...
The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave and
you can never go without leaving footprints behind.
A word to say, a word to hear, even in your absence I feel you near...
Our relationship is strong, hope it lasts long...
We'll remain friends, till our hearts go on...
Being visible isn't always a requirement for being close,
it just takes some thoughtful gesture and concern to capture the heart of a friend.
Friendship means to feel someone in every heartbeat,
to find someone in every thought,
to see someone with closed eyes,
and to miss someone without reason.
Great relationships are not necessarily about finding similarities...
It is more about respecting differences.
Forgetting you is hard to do,
Forgetting me is up to you!
Forget me not, forget me never,
And you'll have a loveable friend forever!
Friends never make assumptions about you.
They never expect a reason to go out with you.
In fact friends only expect you to be you!
One should try to make new friends everyday,
without the company of friends life is barren, and has no meaning.
One should learn the art of making friends,
because at the end of life we remember our friends.
Friendship is like a clap - it makes sound great when we clap with two hands,
And friendship is strong when two persons can understand each other,
and that two persons are you and me =)
True friendship is like sound health,
the value of it is seldom known until it be lost.
Believe not only in yourself, but believe in your friends as well,
for it is in the eyes of your friends that you discover yourself.
but believe in your friends as well for it is in the eyes of your friends that you discover yourself.
If somebody leaves you with lots of tears...save them safely.
Later when a person comes to you with happiness, compare the saved tears and present happiness.
If happiness overcomes your tears...the I am sure you have found your best friend.
Love is post paid, one month you don't pay, connection will be cut.
But friendship is life time prepaid whether you pay or not,
incoming is free for lifetime.
Birds that live in a lake will fly away when the lake dries up.
But the lotus in the same lake dies with the lake.
That's the commitment in relationships...
Friendship is like standing on wet cement...
The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave and
you can never go without leaving footprints behind.
A word to say, a word to hear, even in your absence I feel you near...
Our relationship is strong, hope it lasts long...
We'll remain friends, till our hearts go on...
Being visible isn't always a requirement for being close,
it just takes some thoughtful gesture and concern to capture the heart of a friend.
Friendship means to feel someone in every heartbeat,
to find someone in every thought,
to see someone with closed eyes,
and to miss someone without reason.
Great relationships are not necessarily about finding similarities...
It is more about respecting differences.
Forgetting you is hard to do,
Forgetting me is up to you!
Forget me not, forget me never,
And you'll have a loveable friend forever!
Friends never make assumptions about you.
They never expect a reason to go out with you.
In fact friends only expect you to be you!
One should try to make new friends everyday,
without the company of friends life is barren, and has no meaning.
One should learn the art of making friends,
because at the end of life we remember our friends.
Friendship is like a clap - it makes sound great when we clap with two hands,
And friendship is strong when two persons can understand each other,
and that two persons are you and me =)
True friendship is like sound health,
the value of it is seldom known until it be lost.
Believe not only in yourself, but believe in your friends as well,
for it is in the eyes of your friends that you discover yourself.
Friday, June 20, 2008
Childhood
The things which the child loves remain in the domain of the heart until old age. The most beautiful thing in life is that our souls remain over the places where we once enjoyed ourselves.
There is always one moment in childhodd when the door opens and lets the future in.
If you carry your childhood with you, you never become older.
It is never too late to have a happy childhood.
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection.
The essence of childhood, of course, is play, which my friends and I did endlessly on streets that we reluctantly shared with traffic.
Childhood is that wonderful time of life when all you need to do to lose weight is take a bath.
Creativity is not merely the innocent spontaniety of our youth and childhood, it must also be married to the passion of the adult human being, which is a passion to live beyond one's death.
Our whole life is but a greater and longer childhood.
This highlight of my childhood was making my brother laugh so hard that food came out of his nose.
There is always one moment in childhodd when the door opens and lets the future in.
If you carry your childhood with you, you never become older.
It is never too late to have a happy childhood.
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection.
The essence of childhood, of course, is play, which my friends and I did endlessly on streets that we reluctantly shared with traffic.
Childhood is that wonderful time of life when all you need to do to lose weight is take a bath.
Creativity is not merely the innocent spontaniety of our youth and childhood, it must also be married to the passion of the adult human being, which is a passion to live beyond one's death.
Our whole life is but a greater and longer childhood.
This highlight of my childhood was making my brother laugh so hard that food came out of his nose.
Just be...
Just be strong enough to face the world each day,
be weak enough to know you cannot do everything.
Just be wise enough to know you do not know everything,
be foolish enough to believe in miracles.
Just be a leader when you see a path others have missed,
be a follower when you are shrouded in the midst of uncertainty.
Just be the first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds,
be the last to criticize a colleague who fails.
be weak enough to know you cannot do everything.
Just be wise enough to know you do not know everything,
be foolish enough to believe in miracles.
Just be a leader when you see a path others have missed,
be a follower when you are shrouded in the midst of uncertainty.
Just be the first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds,
be the last to criticize a colleague who fails.
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Things are not always what they seem
Two travelling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family. The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion's guestroom. Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement. As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a hole in the wall and repaired it. The younger angel asked why, the older angel replied, 'Things aren't always what they seem.'
The next night the pair came to rest at a house of a very poor, but very hospitable farmer and his wife. After sharing what little food they had, the couple let the angels sleep in their bed where they could have a good night's rest. When the sun came up the next morning, the angels found the farmer and his wife in tears. Their only cow, whose milk had been their sole income, lay dead in the field. The younger angel was infuriated and asked the older angel, 'How could you have let this happen? The first man had everything, yet you helped him. The second family had little but was willing to share everything, and you let the cow die.'
'Things aren't always what they seem,' the older angel replied. 'When we stayed in the basement of the mansion, I noticed there was gold stored in that hole in the wall. Since the owner was so obsessed with greed and unwilling to share his good fortune, I sealed the wall so he wouldn't find it.'
'Then last night as we slept in the farmer's bed, the angel of death came for his wife. I gave him the cow instead. Things aren't always what they seem.'
Sometimes that is exactly what happens when things don't turn out the way they should. If you have faith, you just need to trust that every outcome is always to your advantage. You might not know it until some time later...
Some people come into our lives and quickly go...
Some people become friends and stay a while, leaving beautiful footprints on our hearts...
And we are never quite the same because we have made a good friend!
The next night the pair came to rest at a house of a very poor, but very hospitable farmer and his wife. After sharing what little food they had, the couple let the angels sleep in their bed where they could have a good night's rest. When the sun came up the next morning, the angels found the farmer and his wife in tears. Their only cow, whose milk had been their sole income, lay dead in the field. The younger angel was infuriated and asked the older angel, 'How could you have let this happen? The first man had everything, yet you helped him. The second family had little but was willing to share everything, and you let the cow die.'
'Things aren't always what they seem,' the older angel replied. 'When we stayed in the basement of the mansion, I noticed there was gold stored in that hole in the wall. Since the owner was so obsessed with greed and unwilling to share his good fortune, I sealed the wall so he wouldn't find it.'
'Then last night as we slept in the farmer's bed, the angel of death came for his wife. I gave him the cow instead. Things aren't always what they seem.'
Sometimes that is exactly what happens when things don't turn out the way they should. If you have faith, you just need to trust that every outcome is always to your advantage. You might not know it until some time later...
Some people come into our lives and quickly go...
Some people become friends and stay a while, leaving beautiful footprints on our hearts...
And we are never quite the same because we have made a good friend!
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Seven ups
1. Wake up!
Decide to have a good day.
2. Dress up!
The best way to dress up is to put on a smile.
A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
3. Shut up!
Say nice things and learn to listen.
With two ears and one mouth, it's meant for us to do twice as much listening as talking.
"He who guards his lips guards his soul."
4. Stand up!
...for what you believe in.
Stand for something or you will fall for anything.
5. Look up!
Keep yourself centred. Remember, you are important.
6. Reach up!
...for something higher.
Trust with all your heart, and lean unto your own understanding.
7. Lift up!
...your prayers.
"Do not worry about anything, instead pray about everything."
A positive thought:
When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift...thrown away.
Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.
"Life may not be the party we hoped for...but while we are here we might as well dance!"
Decide to have a good day.
2. Dress up!
The best way to dress up is to put on a smile.
A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
3. Shut up!
Say nice things and learn to listen.
With two ears and one mouth, it's meant for us to do twice as much listening as talking.
"He who guards his lips guards his soul."
4. Stand up!
...for what you believe in.
Stand for something or you will fall for anything.
5. Look up!
Keep yourself centred. Remember, you are important.
6. Reach up!
...for something higher.
Trust with all your heart, and lean unto your own understanding.
7. Lift up!
...your prayers.
"Do not worry about anything, instead pray about everything."
A positive thought:
When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift...thrown away.
Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.
"Life may not be the party we hoped for...but while we are here we might as well dance!"
Monday, June 16, 2008
小小启示
从前，有一个脾气很坏的男孩，他的爸爸给了他一袋钉子，告诉他每次发脾气或者跟人吵架的时候就在院子的篱笆上钉一根。第一天，男孩钉了37根钉子。后面的几天他学会了控制自己的脾气，每天钉的钉子也逐渐减少了。他发现，控制自己的脾气，实际上比钉钉子要容易得多。终于有一天，他一根钉子都没有钉，他高兴地把这件事告诉了爸爸。爸爸说：从今以后，如果你一天都没有发脾气，就可以在这天拔掉一个钉子。日子一天一天过去，最后，钉子全被拔光了。爸爸带他来到篱笆边上，对他说：儿子，你做得很好，可是看看篱笆上的钉子洞，这些洞永远也不可能恢复了。就像你和一个人吵架，说了些难听的话，你就在他心里留下了一个伤口，像这个钉子洞一样。插一把刀子在一个人的身体里，再拔出来，伤口就难以愈合了。无论你怎么道歉，伤口总是在哪儿。要知道，身体上的伤口和心灵上的伤口一样都难以恢复。
你的朋友是你宝贵的财产，他们让你开怀，让你更勇敢。他们总是随时倾听你的忧伤。你需要他们的时候，他们会支持你，向你敞开心扉。告诉你的朋友你多么爱他们，告诉所有你认为是朋友的人，你的行动可以从这个小小的故事开始。
最后，我要说：友谊的幸福之一，是知道了可以向谁倾吐秘密。当你说：“你是我的好朋友”时，请认真地说出来。当你道歉时请看着对方的眼睛。永远不要嘲笑别人的梦想。不要随便给一个人定性。说话时要慢，思想时要快。打电话的时候请你微笑，对方一定感觉得到。记得，无论在哪里哪个时候，总有一个朋友在默默的祝福你。
你的朋友是你宝贵的财产，他们让你开怀，让你更勇敢。他们总是随时倾听你的忧伤。你需要他们的时候，他们会支持你，向你敞开心扉。告诉你的朋友你多么爱他们，告诉所有你认为是朋友的人，你的行动可以从这个小小的故事开始。
最后，我要说：友谊的幸福之一，是知道了可以向谁倾吐秘密。当你说：“你是我的好朋友”时，请认真地说出来。当你道歉时请看着对方的眼睛。永远不要嘲笑别人的梦想。不要随便给一个人定性。说话时要慢，思想时要快。打电话的时候请你微笑，对方一定感觉得到。记得，无论在哪里哪个时候，总有一个朋友在默默的祝福你。
Positive thoughts
Don't be afraid to open up your eyes so you can see tomorrow.
It takes 72 muscles to frown, and only 14 to smile.
It is not how much we do, but how much love we put into doing it.
A friend is an angel who lifts us off our feet when out wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
Life is like mail, sometimes you just don't get it.
The world is like a mirror, if you face it smiling, it smiles right back.
As long as we have memories, yesterday remains,
as long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits,
as long as we have friendship, each day is never a waste.
You don't stop laughing because you grow old, you grow old because you stop laughing.
A dream is a wish, your heart makes when you're fast asleep.
When life gets you down and nothing seems to go your way, remember you always have a friend.
It takes 72 muscles to frown, and only 14 to smile.
It is not how much we do, but how much love we put into doing it.
A friend is an angel who lifts us off our feet when out wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
Life is like mail, sometimes you just don't get it.
The world is like a mirror, if you face it smiling, it smiles right back.
As long as we have memories, yesterday remains,
as long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits,
as long as we have friendship, each day is never a waste.
You don't stop laughing because you grow old, you grow old because you stop laughing.
A dream is a wish, your heart makes when you're fast asleep.
When life gets you down and nothing seems to go your way, remember you always have a friend.
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Don't worry, be happy =)
The moment you are in tension
You'll lose your attention
Then you are in total confusion
And you'll feel irritation
This may spoil your personal relations
Ultimately you won't get any cooperation
And get things into complications
Then you may raise caution
And you have to take medication
So why not understand the situation
And try to think about the solution
Many problems will be solved by discussion
Which will work out better in profession
Don't you think this is free suggestion
It's only for your prevention
If you understand my intention
You will never come again into this tension
You'll lose your attention
Then you are in total confusion
And you'll feel irritation
This may spoil your personal relations
Ultimately you won't get any cooperation
And get things into complications
Then you may raise caution
And you have to take medication
So why not understand the situation
And try to think about the solution
Many problems will be solved by discussion
Which will work out better in profession
Don't you think this is free suggestion
It's only for your prevention
If you understand my intention
You will never come again into this tension
I won't forget you
I would rather live one day knowing you are my buddy
Than live forever without you by my side.
Of all the friends I've ever met,
You're the one I won't forget.
And if I die
Before you do
I'll go to heaven
And wait for you
I'll give the angels
Back their wings
And risk the loss
Of everything
Just to prove
My friendship is true.
Than live forever without you by my side.
Of all the friends I've ever met,
You're the one I won't forget.
And if I die
Before you do
I'll go to heaven
And wait for you
I'll give the angels
Back their wings
And risk the loss
Of everything
Just to prove
My friendship is true.
Our friendship will remain
You are my best friend through thick and thin.
When you reach for my hand you touch my heart.
You are the best friend that I can have.
You are there for me when I need you the most.
You cheer me up when I am down.
If I am about to cry you make smile.
You are my best friend and I cannot lie.
You listen to me and give me advice,
advice that comes straight from the bottom of your precious heart.
You are my best friend in the whole wide world
And I couldn't ask God for a little bit more.
We are going to grow older,
And things will change but our friendship will forever still remain.
I'll make new friends but that won't change
Because you will always be my best friend.
I'd like to mean as much to you as you mean to me.
I'd like to be some help to you as you have been to me.
I'd like to know that as we grow older our lives will change but our friendship will still remain.
You and I will never be apart
Maybe in distance
But never in heart
For our friendship is the way.
When you reach for my hand you touch my heart.
You are the best friend that I can have.
You are there for me when I need you the most.
You cheer me up when I am down.
If I am about to cry you make smile.
You are my best friend and I cannot lie.
You listen to me and give me advice,
advice that comes straight from the bottom of your precious heart.
You are my best friend in the whole wide world
And I couldn't ask God for a little bit more.
We are going to grow older,
And things will change but our friendship will forever still remain.
I'll make new friends but that won't change
Because you will always be my best friend.
I'd like to mean as much to you as you mean to me.
I'd like to be some help to you as you have been to me.
I'd like to know that as we grow older our lives will change but our friendship will still remain.
You and I will never be apart
Maybe in distance
But never in heart
For our friendship is the way.
Saturday, June 14, 2008
The best of friends
The best of friends,
Can change a frown,
Into a smile,
When you feel down.
The best of friends,
Will understand,
Your little trials,
And lend a hand.
The best of friends,
Will always share,
Your secret dreams,
Because they care.
The best of friends,
Worth more than gold,
Give all the love,
A heart can hold.
Can change a frown,
Into a smile,
When you feel down.
The best of friends,
Will understand,
Your little trials,
And lend a hand.
The best of friends,
Will always share,
Your secret dreams,
Because they care.
The best of friends,
Worth more than gold,
Give all the love,
A heart can hold.
To my best friend
This is for you, my best friend
the one person I can tell my soul to
Who can relate to me like no other
Who I can laugh with to no extent
Who I can cry to when times are tough
Who can help me with the problems of my life.
Never have you turned your back on me
Or told me I wasn't good enough
Or let me down
I don't think you know what that means to me
You have went through so much pain
and you still have time for me
And I love you for listening even when inside you are dying
And I look up too because you are strong
and caring
and beautiful
Even though you don't think you are.
And I hope you know that I am always here
To listen to you laugh and cry
And to offer help in all the ways that I can
And I will try to be at least half the friend you are to me.
I hope you know I would not be the person I am today
Without you, my best friend.
the one person I can tell my soul to
Who can relate to me like no other
Who I can laugh with to no extent
Who I can cry to when times are tough
Who can help me with the problems of my life.
Never have you turned your back on me
Or told me I wasn't good enough
Or let me down
I don't think you know what that means to me
You have went through so much pain
and you still have time for me
And I love you for listening even when inside you are dying
And I look up too because you are strong
and caring
and beautiful
Even though you don't think you are.
And I hope you know that I am always here
To listen to you laugh and cry
And to offer help in all the ways that I can
And I will try to be at least half the friend you are to me.
I hope you know I would not be the person I am today
Without you, my best friend.
Friday, June 13, 2008
谢谢你们陪我走过一段路
一路上，我遇到很多人。
他们曾带给我欢乐，哀愁，和痛苦。让我喜欢他们，讨厌他们，甚至怨恨他们。
走了一段路后，当我回头看看他们时，却发现他们不知何时，早已失去踪影。
这时，心里其实很想对他们说：谢谢你们曾陪我走过一段路。
因为你们，才有现在的我。
他们曾带给我欢乐，哀愁，和痛苦。让我喜欢他们，讨厌他们，甚至怨恨他们。
走了一段路后，当我回头看看他们时，却发现他们不知何时，早已失去踪影。
这时，心里其实很想对他们说：谢谢你们曾陪我走过一段路。
因为你们，才有现在的我。
You are always there for me...
Words escape me
at this moment
that seems like the end
yet it is only the beginning
when friendships are close
and dreams are far
you were there for me.
Tears fill me
with memories of both good and bad
some nearly forgotten
yet all dear to the heart
you were there for me.
In times of trouble
and in times of thanks
you stood by my side
and held me up.
Through your ever-patient ears
to your comforting hugs
you were there for me.
From that first day
when I saw you and knew
that you would love me for who I was
you were there for me.
And until the day
when we are old and gray
I will always know that
you are there for me.
at this moment
that seems like the end
yet it is only the beginning
when friendships are close
and dreams are far
you were there for me.
Tears fill me
with memories of both good and bad
some nearly forgotten
yet all dear to the heart
you were there for me.
In times of trouble
and in times of thanks
you stood by my side
and held me up.
Through your ever-patient ears
to your comforting hugs
you were there for me.
From that first day
when I saw you and knew
that you would love me for who I was
you were there for me.
And until the day
when we are old and gray
I will always know that
you are there for me.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
一个故事：勇敢地说我爱你
有对老夫妻年与务实，经济条件不错，理当是安详退休生活的时候，却相偕到律师那儿要办离婚。原因是自从结婚以来，两人争吵不断，老师意见不和，个性上又南辕北辙十分不和谐，二十多年的婚姻生活，要不是为了孩子着想，早就劳燕纷飞了。好不容易总算盼到孩子们成年，再不需要父母操心，为了彼此在晚年都自由的生活，不用再忍受那么多无谓的争吵，决定办离婚。
这一刻在律师面前，让律师也面有难色，律师费都有点不好意思收了，于是他提议办完手续后，三人一起吃顿饭。老夫妻想了想，虽然离了婚，两人又没什么深仇大恨，吃顿饭总可以吧！餐厅里三人气氛非常尴尬（想也难怪，陌生的律师和两个刚离婚的人）。正巧服务生送来一道烤鸡，老先生马上挟起一块鸡腿给老太太说：“吃吧！你最喜欢吃的鸡腿。”
律师眼睛一亮，心想事情也许有了转机哦！
未料老太太红着双眼说：“我很爱你，但你这个人就爱自以为是，什么事都自己说了就算，从来不管别人的感受，难道你不知道，我这辈子最讨厌吃的就是鸡腿吗？”这是老先生也有点哽咽地说：“你……总是不了解我爱你的心，时时刻刻我都在想，要如何讨你的欢心，总是把最好的留给你，你知道吗？这辈子我最喜欢吃的就是……鸡腿。“律师看在眼里，不免鼻头一酸，两个如此深爱着彼此的人，却因为沟通除了问题而面临分开的局面。这一晚两人心中都有着无限的感慨，这么多年的感情却要面对如此残酷的结局。
老先生整晚翻来覆去睡不着，心中阵阵如火燃烧般的痛在心底无情的煎熬着。他考虑了很久，强忍着痛苦打电话给老太太，想要表达他内心的后悔，他想告书老太太，他是多么的爱她。电话声响了，老太太知道一定是老先生打来的，但是她心中充满了恨，她觉得是老先生负了她一生，她不想再听到他的声音。电话不知响了多久，老太太就是不接，婚都离了，面子重要，怎能接电话，甚至她把电话线都拆了。
老先生手握着冰冷的话筒，听不到老太太的声音，心中有如刀割一般，久久无法释怀。其实这一天晚上老太太也是在伤心中辗转难眠，而且她忘了……老先生他有心脏病。
隔天，老先生被发现斯在自己家客厅，手里还紧握着电话筒。老太太知道这个消息后简直无法相信，为了赌一口气，竟然让自己深爱的人在心碎中死去，这时候任她如何大声的呼喊也唤不回老先生回眸一笑。
老太太柔肠寸断的整理老先生的遗物，突然发现抽屉里的一张保险单，投保日起就是当年他们俩的结婚日，受益人当然是老太太的名字，虽然金额只有一百万元，但是当中夹着一张字条 - ‘亲爱的，当你发现这张宝但是，也许我已经不在人世了，但我爱你的心不会改变，照顾你的责任更不会终止，这些保险金将代替我，继续给你无微不至的爱与关怀，一如我仍然在你身旁，永远爱你的……’看到这里老太太早已泪如雨下，她真的没看走眼，他是真心愿意照顾自己一辈子的人。
千万不要让生命中有这样的遗憾，早早放下心中无谓的面子、成见，用爱与包容，否则你可能错过这一生深爱你的人最后一次所说的：“我爱你！”
到时再多的怨恨也无法挽回这样的遗憾。更提醒您，要把握住机会，让心爱的人知道你有多在乎他，勇敢地说出来吧！希望天下有情人终成眷属！
这一刻在律师面前，让律师也面有难色，律师费都有点不好意思收了，于是他提议办完手续后，三人一起吃顿饭。老夫妻想了想，虽然离了婚，两人又没什么深仇大恨，吃顿饭总可以吧！餐厅里三人气氛非常尴尬（想也难怪，陌生的律师和两个刚离婚的人）。正巧服务生送来一道烤鸡，老先生马上挟起一块鸡腿给老太太说：“吃吧！你最喜欢吃的鸡腿。”
律师眼睛一亮，心想事情也许有了转机哦！
未料老太太红着双眼说：“我很爱你，但你这个人就爱自以为是，什么事都自己说了就算，从来不管别人的感受，难道你不知道，我这辈子最讨厌吃的就是鸡腿吗？”这是老先生也有点哽咽地说：“你……总是不了解我爱你的心，时时刻刻我都在想，要如何讨你的欢心，总是把最好的留给你，你知道吗？这辈子我最喜欢吃的就是……鸡腿。“律师看在眼里，不免鼻头一酸，两个如此深爱着彼此的人，却因为沟通除了问题而面临分开的局面。这一晚两人心中都有着无限的感慨，这么多年的感情却要面对如此残酷的结局。
老先生整晚翻来覆去睡不着，心中阵阵如火燃烧般的痛在心底无情的煎熬着。他考虑了很久，强忍着痛苦打电话给老太太，想要表达他内心的后悔，他想告书老太太，他是多么的爱她。电话声响了，老太太知道一定是老先生打来的，但是她心中充满了恨，她觉得是老先生负了她一生，她不想再听到他的声音。电话不知响了多久，老太太就是不接，婚都离了，面子重要，怎能接电话，甚至她把电话线都拆了。
老先生手握着冰冷的话筒，听不到老太太的声音，心中有如刀割一般，久久无法释怀。其实这一天晚上老太太也是在伤心中辗转难眠，而且她忘了……老先生他有心脏病。
隔天，老先生被发现斯在自己家客厅，手里还紧握着电话筒。老太太知道这个消息后简直无法相信，为了赌一口气，竟然让自己深爱的人在心碎中死去，这时候任她如何大声的呼喊也唤不回老先生回眸一笑。
老太太柔肠寸断的整理老先生的遗物，突然发现抽屉里的一张保险单，投保日起就是当年他们俩的结婚日，受益人当然是老太太的名字，虽然金额只有一百万元，但是当中夹着一张字条 - ‘亲爱的，当你发现这张宝但是，也许我已经不在人世了，但我爱你的心不会改变，照顾你的责任更不会终止，这些保险金将代替我，继续给你无微不至的爱与关怀，一如我仍然在你身旁，永远爱你的……’看到这里老太太早已泪如雨下，她真的没看走眼，他是真心愿意照顾自己一辈子的人。
千万不要让生命中有这样的遗憾，早早放下心中无谓的面子、成见，用爱与包容，否则你可能错过这一生深爱你的人最后一次所说的：“我爱你！”
到时再多的怨恨也无法挽回这样的遗憾。更提醒您，要把握住机会，让心爱的人知道你有多在乎他，勇敢地说出来吧！希望天下有情人终成眷属！
God bless you
A kiss from the sunlight greets you a new day,
God embrace you when you pray,
Blessings from God as the day decay,
May you go through this journey by His way.
Finally, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things.
As the eyes of slaves look to the hand of their master,
As the eyes of the maid look to the hand of her mistress,
So our eyes look to the Lord our God,
Till He shows us mercy.
God embrace you when you pray,
Blessings from God as the day decay,
May you go through this journey by His way.
Finally, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things.
As the eyes of slaves look to the hand of their master,
As the eyes of the maid look to the hand of her mistress,
So our eyes look to the Lord our God,
Till He shows us mercy.
Enthusiasim
Your enthusiasm will be infectious, stimulating and attractive to others. They will love you for it. They will go for you and with you. –Norman Vincent Peale
Have you ever been so enthusiastic - so passionate - about something that the words stop and go cease to exist in your vocabulary, replaced only with continue? You feel like a volcano about to explode, so you continue until you burst forth with excitement. And, have you ever noticed that when you are turning out this energy, you inspire yourself to do more and to go in new directions? Instead of coming to an end after each accomplishment, you find yourself arriving at a new beginning, inspiring others to go with you.
Have you ever been so enthusiastic - so passionate - about something that the words stop and go cease to exist in your vocabulary, replaced only with continue? You feel like a volcano about to explode, so you continue until you burst forth with excitement. And, have you ever noticed that when you are turning out this energy, you inspire yourself to do more and to go in new directions? Instead of coming to an end after each accomplishment, you find yourself arriving at a new beginning, inspiring others to go with you.
Golden rules of love
Friendship often ends in love...
But love in friendship - never...
Don't marry a person you can live with,
Marry a person you cannot live without.
To love is nothing,
To be loved is something,
To love and be loved is everything.
Kindness in words creates confidence,
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness,
Kindness in giving creates love.
Love - one word that frees us of all the weight and pain in life.
But love in friendship - never...
Don't marry a person you can live with,
Marry a person you cannot live without.
To love is nothing,
To be loved is something,
To love and be loved is everything.
Kindness in words creates confidence,
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness,
Kindness in giving creates love.
Love - one word that frees us of all the weight and pain in life.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Beautiful wisdom
The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.
"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids.."
"No, seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk non-stop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.
She loved to dress up and she revelled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet.
I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!
There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.
If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.
Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.
The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.."
She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose."
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.
At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.
These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE: REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.
God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
"IN ORDER TO GROW, YOU SOMETIMES HAVE TO GO AGAINST CONVENTIONAL WISDOM"
YOU DON'T MAKE REAL PROGRESS UNLESS YOU HAVE A VISION
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.
"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids.."
"No, seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk non-stop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.
She loved to dress up and she revelled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet.
I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!
There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.
If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.
Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.
The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.."
She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose."
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.
At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.
These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE: REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.
God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
"IN ORDER TO GROW, YOU SOMETIMES HAVE TO GO AGAINST CONVENTIONAL WISDOM"
YOU DON'T MAKE REAL PROGRESS UNLESS YOU HAVE A VISION
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
My wish for you
This is my wish for you:
comfort on difficult days,
smiles when sadness intrudes,
rainbows to follow the clouds,
laughter to kiss you lips,
sunsets to warm your heart,
hugs when spirits sag,
friendships to brighten your being,
beauty for your eyes to see,
faith so that you can believe,
confidence for when you doubt,
patience to accept the truth,
courage to know yourself,
love to complete your life.
comfort on difficult days,
smiles when sadness intrudes,
rainbows to follow the clouds,
laughter to kiss you lips,
sunsets to warm your heart,
hugs when spirits sag,
friendships to brighten your being,
beauty for your eyes to see,
faith so that you can believe,
confidence for when you doubt,
patience to accept the truth,
courage to know yourself,
love to complete your life.
(Anonymous)
Two choices
Jerry is the manager of a restaurant. He is always in a good mood.
When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would always reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed jobs, so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant.
Why?
Because Jerry was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was always there, telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, I have two choices today. I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to be in a bad mood. I always choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be victim or I can choose to learn from it. I always choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose the positive side of life."
"But it's not always that easy," I protested.
"Yes it is," Jerry said.
"Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk every situation is a choice.
You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. It's your choice how you live your life."
Several years later, I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you are not supposed to do in the restaurant business.
He left the back door of his restaurant open, and then in the morning he was robbed by three armed men. They wanted money. While Jerry was trying to open the safe box, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.
Luckily, Jerry was found quickly and rushed to the hospital. After 18 hours of surgery, and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied.
"Then, after they shot me, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or chould choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared?" I asked.
Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the expression on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Please operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.
I learned from him that everyday you have the choice to either enjoy our life or to hate it.
The only thing that is truly yours - that no one can control or take from you - is your attitude, so if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much easier.
When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would always reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed jobs, so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant.
Why?
Because Jerry was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was always there, telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, I have two choices today. I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to be in a bad mood. I always choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be victim or I can choose to learn from it. I always choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose the positive side of life."
"But it's not always that easy," I protested.
"Yes it is," Jerry said.
"Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk every situation is a choice.
You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. It's your choice how you live your life."
Several years later, I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you are not supposed to do in the restaurant business.
He left the back door of his restaurant open, and then in the morning he was robbed by three armed men. They wanted money. While Jerry was trying to open the safe box, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.
Luckily, Jerry was found quickly and rushed to the hospital. After 18 hours of surgery, and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied.
"Then, after they shot me, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or chould choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared?" I asked.
Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the expression on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Please operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.
I learned from him that everyday you have the choice to either enjoy our life or to hate it.
The only thing that is truly yours - that no one can control or take from you - is your attitude, so if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much easier.
Sand and Stone
This story tells about two friends that were walking through the desert.
At one point during the trip they started arguing and one of the friends hit the other in the face.
The one that had been hit was hurt, but without a further word, wrote down in the sand, 'Today my best friend hit me in the face.'
They carried on walking until they came across an oasis, where they decided to freshen up and bathe. But the one that had been hit before got caught in the mud and was about to drown, and the friend saved him.
After he had recovered, he wrote down on a stone, 'Today my best friend saved my life.'
The friend that had hit his best friend and had then saved him asked, 'After I hit you, you wrote in the sand, and now you are writing on stone. Why?'
The other friend answered, 'When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand so that the wind can forgive us by blowing it away.
But when someone does something nice for us, we should engrave it in stone, where no wind can ever blow it away.'
Learn to write down your pain in sand and to engrave the good experience in stone.
They say it takes a minute to find someone special, an hour to appreciate them, a day to get to like and love them, but takes a lifetime to forget them.
At one point during the trip they started arguing and one of the friends hit the other in the face.
The one that had been hit was hurt, but without a further word, wrote down in the sand, 'Today my best friend hit me in the face.'
They carried on walking until they came across an oasis, where they decided to freshen up and bathe. But the one that had been hit before got caught in the mud and was about to drown, and the friend saved him.
After he had recovered, he wrote down on a stone, 'Today my best friend saved my life.'
The friend that had hit his best friend and had then saved him asked, 'After I hit you, you wrote in the sand, and now you are writing on stone. Why?'
The other friend answered, 'When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand so that the wind can forgive us by blowing it away.
But when someone does something nice for us, we should engrave it in stone, where no wind can ever blow it away.'
Learn to write down your pain in sand and to engrave the good experience in stone.
They say it takes a minute to find someone special, an hour to appreciate them, a day to get to like and love them, but takes a lifetime to forget them.
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