This is a blog to post the meaningful messages I gathered from emails, forwarded messages or anywhere else which I have stored over the years. Take note that I do not write them on my own - just merely copying and posting them up here. Enjoy! =)
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Some quotes about nature
The soul that can speak through the eyes can also kiss with a gaze. - Gustavo Adolfo Becquer, Spain
A baby is God's opinion that life should go on. - Carl Sandburg (1878-1967), USA
As the soul... cannot be productive without cultivation, so the mind without culture can never produce good fruit. - Seneca (C. 4BCE - C.65CE), Rome
Love cannot express the idea of music, while music may give an idea of love. - Louis-Hector Berlioz (1803-69), France
The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of nature. - Anne Frank, Netherlands (1929-45)
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
* 不能老了再後悔 *
畢業一張紙,奮鬥一輩子;
婚姻一張紙,折磨一輩子;
做官一張紙,鬥爭一輩子;
金錢一張紙,辛苦一輩子;
榮譽一張紙,虛名一輩子;
看病一張紙,痛苦一輩子;
悼詞一張紙,了結一輩子;
淡化這些紙,明白一輩子;
忘了這些紙,快樂一輩子 !
當大部分人都在關注你飛得高不高時,
只有少部分人關心你飛得累不累,
這就是友情。
再忙,也要照顧好自己,
朋友雖不常聯繫,卻一直惦念。
少喝奶茶、不吃剛烤好的麵包,
遠離正在充電的電源。
白天多喝水,晚上少喝,
一天不喝多於兩杯的咖啡。
少吃油多的食物,
最佳睡眠為晚上十點至早上六點。
晚上五點後少吃大餐,
每天喝酒不超過一杯。
不用冷水服膠囊,
睡前半小時服藥忌立刻躺下。
睡眠不足八小時人會變笨,
有午睡習慣的人不易老。
手機電池剩一格時不要打電話,
剩一格時輻射是平時的一千倍。
要用左耳接電話,
用右耳會直接傷害到大腦。
*2009** 新概念*
一個中心:一切以健康為中心。
兩個基本點:遇事瀟灑一點,看世糊塗一點。
三個忘記: 忘記年齡,忘記過去,忘記恩怨。
四個擁有: 無論你有多弱或多強,一定要擁有真正愛你的人,擁有知心的朋友,擁有向上的事業,擁有溫暖的住所。
五個要: 要唱,要跳,要俏,要笑,要苗條。
六個不能: 不能餓了才吃,不能渴了才喝,不能困了才睡,不能累了才歇,不能病了才檢查,不能老了再後悔。
Just Stay
Just Stay
A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside.
"Your son is here," she said to the old man.
She had to repeat the words several times before the patient's eyes opened.
He was heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young uniformed Marine standing outside the oxygen tent. He reached out his hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened fingers around the old man's limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.
The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside the bed. All through the night the young Marine sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man's hand and offering him words of love and strength. Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away and rest awhile.
He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine was oblivious of her and of the night noises of the hospital - the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.
Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.
Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.
Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the Marine interrupted her.
"Who was that man?" he asked.
The nurse was startled, "He was your father," she answered.
"No, he wasn't," the Marine replied. "I never saw him before in my life."
"Then why didn't you say something when I took you to him?"
"I knew right away there had been a mistake,
but I also knew he needed his son, and his
son just wasn't here.
When I realized that he was too sick to tell
whether or not I was his son,
knowing how much he needed me, I stayed."
The next time someone needs you ... just be there. Stay.
**************
WE ARE NOT HUMAN BEINGS GOING THROUGH ATEMPORARY SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE.
WE ARE SPIRITUAL BEINGS GOING THROUGH A TEMPORARY HUMAN EXPERIENCE.
Monday, November 16, 2009
妻子的空位 (The irreplaceable void)
和孩子,她的心有何等難過呢?
天我為了出差,清晨趕出門,無法將孩子打點好就得離開家,
飯,我熱了蒸蛋,向還沒有睡醒的孩子交代一聲,就出門去了。
4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how
does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must
be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking
care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have,
as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional
needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.
There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I
had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that
there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after
informing my sleepy child.
為了照顧好孩子飲食三餐的事,我也無力把自己的工作做好。
只是很簡短地和孩子打個招呼,就因為身體疲累,不想吃晚餐,
往床上躺下。就在那個時候,砰的一聲,
單,原來有碗泡麵在棉被裡!這小子真是的,說時遲那時快,
架,跑出去,往正玩著玩具的兒子的屁股就打,
打他。但就在這個時候,他邊啜泣邊說了一段話,使我停了下來。
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am
home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So
with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the
room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention
of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken
porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the
source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess
on the bedsheet and blanket!
Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged
straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a
good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short
explanation:
兒子告訴我說:「飯鍋裡的飯早上已經吃完了,晚餐在幼稚園吃了,
上,爸爸還不回來,我就在櫥櫃的抽屜裡找到了泡麵。
斯爐,所以我就打開洗澡的水龍頭,用熱水泡了泡麵,一個自己吃,
爸吃。因為怕泡麵涼掉,所以我就把它放在棉被裡,等你回來。
朋友借來的玩具,所以忘了跟爸爸講。」
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were
not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I
remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any
adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from
the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me.
However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under
the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you
'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
我不想讓兒子看到我在流淚,所以衝到洗手間,將水龍頭打開,
子之後,我打起精神來,一面哄著兒子,一面也在他屁股上擦藥,
我清理好泡麵弄髒的床單和棉被後,打開兒子的房門一看,
聲,手裡還拿著媽媽的照片。我把頭靠在房門站了許久,
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't
want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried
with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went
towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him,
while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the
bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's
room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little
buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.
自從在一年前發生這件事之後,我為了扮演好媽媽的角色,
在兒子快七歲了,不久後就要從幼稚園畢業,進入國小讀書。
時間毫無陰影,很開朗地成長。
A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to
focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to
most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating
from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting
impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
就在不久前,我再一次打孩子,因為幼稚園來電話說,
很不安,所以早退回家,在整個社區裡大聲地喊他的名字,
具店的門?f,看見他站在電玩的前面,於是我很生氣,
說出任何的解釋,只說了聲對不起。後來我才知道,
看才藝表演的日子。
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time,
his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from
school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to
explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling
out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily
playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell
out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But
after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by
his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the
reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....
發生這些事的幾天後,兒子回家說,他在幼稚園裡學了寫字,
房間裡不出來,很認真地寫字。我看到兒子這個樣子,
看到他這樣而微笑,我就無法忍住淚水。
Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten
has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to
himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure,
would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud
too!
時間很快,又過了一年,到了冬天,
闖了一個禍。我正要下班的時候,接到一通社區郵局的電話,
地址的信,惡作劇地放在郵筒裡。每年到了年底,
他們造成很大的困擾。雖然我已決定不再打孩子,
來,我又忍不住痛打他一頓。兒子這一次只是說他做錯了,
把他推到一個角落,不管了,
眼前說:「你為什麼要這樣惡作劇?」兒子哭著回答說:「
的。」
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's
winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in
every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my
son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's
work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was
also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to
post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise
never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that
this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he
apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I
pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the
letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on
his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.
當時我的眼眶紅了起來,心裡很激動,但是因為在兒子面前,
表現出來。我接著問他:「那麼,為什麼一次寄這麼多信呢?」
我要把信投進去的時候,因為個兒太矮,所以沒辦法投入,
時,已經搆得到了,所以我就把以前沒有寄的,
My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to
ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's
reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I
reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able
to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I
could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
我聽了以後,心中一片茫然,不知道該對孩子說什麼話。
說:「媽媽現在在天上,以後你寫完信,把信燒了,
之後,我到外面燒了那些信。我很好奇到底孩子想跟媽媽說些什麼,
幾封信。
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to
say....
I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if
you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach
mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon
after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters
on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the
letter before they turn to ash.
而當中有一封信攪動了我的心。
And one of the letters broke my heart....
親愛的媽媽:
我很想念你!媽媽,今天在幼稚園有才藝表演,
加,我也沒有告訴爸爸,怕爸爸會想念媽媽。爸爸到處去找我,
我很開心的樣子,所以故意坐在電動玩具面前,雖然爸爸罵我,
告訴他原因。媽媽,我每天都看到爸爸因為想念媽媽而哭泣,
樣,很想念媽媽吧!但是,媽,我現在已經記不清楚你的臉。媽媽,
中,再一次能夠看到你的臉,好嗎?
那個人。可是,媽媽,為什麼你沒有出現在我的夢裡呢?」
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the
school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did
not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was
afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went
around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of
the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was
furious, and he couldn't help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not
tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and
whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room.
I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I
think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear
in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if
you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will
see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven't you appeared?
讀完這封信以後,我就開始嚎啕大哭。到底什麼時候,
After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace
the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
不要加太多班,工作做不完,一定是公司的某些地方出問題了,
妳的老闆,一直加班也不見的有用的,請務必要照顧自己的身體,
的小寶貝。
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some
kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem.
Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to
the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take
care of your little precious.
給 已經結婚的男同事:
不要喝太多酒,不要抽太多煙,請問我們的生意,我們的客戶,
嗎?
一定要想一想,有沒有辦法做到客人非我們不行,
的懂客人的心,這比拼命喝酒,還重要,請務必要照顧自己的身體,
妳的小寶貝和你的愛人。
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even
business nor clients.
Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally
dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this
society, no one is indispensable.
Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little
precious and your loved ones.
給 還沒有結婚的男同事和女同事:
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first.
With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other
things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let
your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more
than your well being.
美其實是從愛自己的身體開始 --(蔣勳,身體美學)。
無入而不自得 -- (孔子)。
妳/你們一定要很自在,工作才能做的好,如果工作讓你/妳們的心
表的是我們的公司不夠聰明,那也是公司什麼地方不對了,
不聰明的工作與老闆,傷害了妳/你們的身體。
Saturday, November 14, 2009
離婚酒店
手續辦得很順利,出門後,兩個人已經是各自獨立的自由人了,不知為什麼,他心裏突然有種空落落的感覺,他看了看她:“天已經晚了,一起去吃點飯吧。”
她看了看他:“好吧,聽說新開了一家‘離婚酒店’,專門執行離婚夫婦的最後一頓晚餐,要不咱們到那兒去看看。”
他點了點頭,兩人一前一後默默地走進了離婚酒店。
“先生女士晚上好。”二人在包廂剛坐下,服務小姐便走了進來,“請問兩位想吃點兒什麼?”
他看了看她:“你點吧。”
她搖了搖頭:“我不常出來,不太清楚這些,還是你點吧。”
“對不起先生女士,我們離婚酒店有個規矩,這頓飯必須要由 女士點先生平時最愛吃的菜,由先生點女士平時最愛吃的菜,這叫‘最後的記憶’。”
“那好吧,”她理了理頭髮,“清蒸魚、溜蘑菇、拌木耳,記住,都不要放蔥薑蒜,我先生……這位先生他不吃這些。”
“先生呢?”服務小姐看了看他。
他愣住了。結婚10年,他真的不知道老婆喜歡吃什麼。他張著嘴,尷尬地愣在了那兒。
“就這些吧,其實這是我們兩個人都愛吃的。”她連忙打起了圓場。
服務小姐笑了笑:“說實話,到我們離婚酒店來吃這最後一頓晚餐,所有的先生和女士其實都吃不下去什麼,所以這‘最後的記憶’咱們還是不要吃了吧。就喝我們酒店特意為所有離婚人士準備的晚餐——冷飲吧,這也是所有來的人都不拒絕的選擇。”
她與她都點了點頭:“那就來冷飲吧。”
很快,服務小姐送來了兩份冷飲,兩份飲料中一份淡藍一片,全是冰渣;一份滿杯紅潤,冒著熱氣。
“這份晚餐名叫‘一半是火焰,一半是海水’,兩位慢用。”服務小姐介紹完退了下去。
包房裏靜悄悄的,兩個人相對而坐,一時竟不知道該說什麼好。
“篤篤篤!”輕輕一陣敲門聲,服務小姐走了近來,托盤裏托著一枝鮮豔的紅玫瑰: “先生,還記得您第一次給這位女士送花的情景嗎?現在一切都結束了,夫妻不成就當朋友, 朋友要好聚好散,最後為女士送朵玫瑰吧。”
她渾身一抖,眼前又浮現出了10年前他給她送花的情景,那時,他們剛剛來到這座舉目無親的省城,什麼都沒有,一切從零開始。白天,他們四處找工作,努力拼搏;晚上,為了增加收入,她去晚市出小攤,他去給人家刷盤子。很晚很晚,他們才一起回到租住在地下室裏那不足10平米的小屋。日子很苦,可他們卻很幸福。到省城的第一個情人節那天,他為自己買了第一朵紅玫瑰,她幸福得流下了眼淚。10年了,一切都好起來了,可兩個人卻走向了分離。她想著想著,淚水盈滿了雙眼,她擺了擺手說:“不用了。”
他也想起了過去的10年,他這才記起,自己已經有五六年沒有給她買過一枝玫瑰了。他擺了擺手:“不,要買。”
服務小姐卻拿起了玫瑰,“刷刷”兩下撕成了兩半,分別扔進了兩個人的飲料杯裏,玫瑰竟然溶解在了飲料裏。
“這是我們酒店特意用糯米製成的紅玫瑰,也是送給你們的第三道菜,名叫‘映景的美麗’。先生女士慢用,有什麼需要直接叫我。”服務小姐說完,轉身走了出去。
“XX,我……”他一把握住她的手,有些說不出話來。
她抽了抽手,沒有抽動,便不再動彈。兩個人靜靜地對視著,什麼也說不出來。
“啪!”突然,燈熄了,整個包房裏漆黑一片,外面警鈴大作,一股煙味兒飄了進來。
“怎麼了?”兩個人急忙站了起來。
“店起火了,大家馬上從安全通道走!快!”外面,有人聲嘶力竭地喊了起來。
“老公!”她一下撲進了他的懷裏,“我怕!”
“別怕!”他緊緊摟住她,“親愛的,有我呢。走,往外衝!”
包廂外面燈光通明,秩序井然,什麼都沒有發生。
服務小姐走了過來:“對不起,先生女士,讓兩位受驚了。酒店並沒有失火,煙味兒也是特意往包房裏放的一點點,這是我們的第四道菜,名叫‘內心的選擇’。請回包廂。”
他和她回到了包廂,燈光依舊。他一把拉她:“親愛的,服務小姐說得對,剛才那才是你我內心真正的選擇。其實,我們誰都離不開誰,明天咱們重新結婚吧?”
她咬了咬嘴唇:“你願意嗎?”
“我願意,我現在什麼都明白了,明天一早咱就去辦結婚。小姐,買單。”他說著喊了起來 。
服務小姐走了近來,遞給兩人一人一張精緻的紅色清單:“先生女士好,這是兩位的帳單,也是本酒店的最後一道贈品,名叫‘永遠的帳單’,請兩位永遠保存吧。"
他看著帳單,眼淚淌了下來。
“你怎麼了?”她連忙問道。
他把帳單遞給了她:“親愛的,我錯了,我對不起你。”
她打開帳單一看,只見上面寫著:
一個溫暖的家;
兩隻操勞的手;
三更不熄等您歸家的燈;
四季注意身體的叮囑;
無微不至的關懷;
六旬婆母的微笑;
起早貪黑對孩子的照顧;
八方維護您的威信;
九下廚房為了您愛吃的一道菜;
十年為您逝去的青春……
這就是您的妻子。
“老公,您辛苦了,這些年也是我冷漠了你。”她也把自己的那份帳單遞給了他。
他打開帳單,只見上面寫著:
一個男人的責任;
兩肩挑起的重擔;
三更半夜的勞累;
四處奔波的匆忙;
無法傾訴的委屈;
留在臉上的滄桑;
七姑八姨的義務;
八上八下的波折;
九優一疵的凡人;
時時對家對子的真情……
這就是您的丈夫。
兩個人抱在一起,放聲痛哭。
結完帳,他和她對經理千恩萬謝,手牽手走回了家。看者他們幸福的背影,經理微笑著點了點頭:
“真幸福,我們離婚酒店又挽救了一個家!
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
缺角的地方不去看它,整個杯子就是圓的
http://www2.lssh.tp.edu.tw/~lib/share/circle.htm
每個人都有缺點,若人不去計較缺點,則每個人都是很好的人。
曾在美國聽聞一件趣事:加州有位女士養了一隻珍貴的鸚鵡,非常可愛美麗,但是牠卻有一個怪毛病,常常咳嗽,而且聲音混濁難聽,喉嚨裏好像塞滿了令人作嘔的痰。女主人十分焦慮,急忙帶牠去看獸醫,唯恐牠患上了呼吸系統的疾病。
不料檢查結果,鸚鵡完全健康,沒有毛病。問題出在女主人身上,因為她抽煙,所以經常咳嗽,這隻鸚鵡只是唯妙唯肖地把主人的聲音模仿得以假亂真罷了。那女主人若有所悟,立即戒了煙。
這個故事,能否給予我們一點啟示呢?人的通病,總覺得別人不是,自己總是對的。殊不知大家來自不同的生活層面,所見所想的角度和程度不一樣,加上個性、知識的差異,便形成觀念的分歧,特別是以「自我為中心」,故此社會上常有不愉快、不和諧的事,乃至極大的爭端發生。
誰不希望在此紛亂的塵世,尋求一點祥和與溫馨呢?
記得證嚴法師有一件為人稱道的事:
有一天,證嚴法師為了慈濟醫院的事,前去拜訪台北一位慈濟委員,那位委員端出一杯茶招待法師,當時她突然發現杯子稍有缺口,於是很不好意思的說:「師父,很抱歉,這杯子缺了一角……」
法師回答:
「缺角的地方不去看它,整個杯子就是圓的。
每個人都有缺點,若人不去計較缺點,則每個人都是很好的人。」
USED vs LOVED
his 4 yr old son picked up a stone
and scratched lines on the side of the car.
he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers
When the child saw his father.....
Devastated by his own actions.......
The next day that man committed suicide. . .
Anger and Love have no limits;
life & remember this:
The problem in today's world is
Let's try always to keep this thought in mind:
People are to be loved.
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character;
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
我们都老得太快,却聪明得太迟.
结果退休后,因为年纪大,身体差,行动不方便,哪里也去不成。
钱存下来等养老,结果孩子长大了,要出国留学,要创业做生意,要花钱娶老婆,
自己的退休金都被拗走了。
老年人有时候是无法做中年人或是青少年人可以做的事,
年纪和健康就是一大因素。
小孩子从小就告诉他,养你到高中,大学以后就要自立更生,
要留学,创业,娶老婆,自己想办法,自己要留多一点钱,
不要为了小孩子而活。
这突如其来的事故,实在叫
人难以接受,但是死亡的到来不总是如此。
学长说他太太最希望他能送鲜花给他,但是他觉得太浪费,
总推说等到下次再买,
结果却是在她死后,用鲜花布置她的灵堂。
这不是太蠢愚了吗?!
等到......、等到.....,似乎我们所有的生命,都用在等待。
「等到我买房子以后!」
「等我最小的孩子结婚之后!」
「等我把这笔生意谈成之后!」
「等到我死了以后」
人人都很愿意牺牲当下,去换取未知的等待;牺牲今生今世的辛苦钱,去购买后世的安逸。
地变灵塔,无非也是为了等到死后,能图个保障,不必再受苦。
许多人认为必须等到某时或某事完成之后再采取行动。
明天我就开始运动
明天我就会对他好一点
下星期我们就找时间出去走走
退休后,我们就要好好享受一下
在现实生活中,各种突发状况总
是层出不穷。
身为一个医生,我所见过的死人,比一般人要来得多。
这些人早上醒来时,原本
预期过的是另一个平凡无奇的日子,没想到一个意料之外的事;
交通意外、脑溢血、心脏病发作等等。
剎那间生命的巨轮倾覆离轨,突然闯进一片黑暗之中。
那么我们要如何面对生命呢?我们毋需等到生活完美无瑕,
也毋需等到一切都平稳,
想做什么,现在就可以开始做起。
一个人永远也无法预料未来,所以不要延缓想过的生活,
不要吝于表达心中的话, 因为生命只在一瞬间。
给活人送一朵鲜花,强过给死人送贵重的花圈
每个人的生命都有尽头,许多人经常在生命即将结束时,才发现自己还有很多事
没有做,有许多话来不及说,这实在是人生最大的遗憾。
别让自己徒留「为时已晚」的空余恨。
逝者不可追,来者犹未卜,最珍贵、最需要实时掌握的「当下」,往往在这两者
蹉跎间,转眼错失。
高天与原地,悠悠人生路;
行行向何方,转眼即长暮。
正是道尽了人生如寄,转眼即逝的惶恐。
有许多事,在你还不懂得珍惜之前已成旧事;有许多人,
在你还来不及用心之前 已成旧人。
遗憾的事一再发生,但过后再追悔
早知道如何如何」是没有用的,
「那时候」已经过去,你追念的人也已走过了你
不管你是否察觉,生命都一直在前进
人生并未售来回票,失去的便永远不再
将希望寄予「等到方便的时间才享受」
我们不知失去了多少可能的幸福
不要再等待有一天你「可以松口气」,或是「麻烦都过去了」。
生命中大部分的美好事物都是短暂易逝的,
享受它们、品尝它们,
善待你周围的
每一个 人,
别把时间浪费在等待所有难题的「完满结局」上。
死亡 也许是免费的 ─ 但是,却要付出生命的代价。
劝大家一句话:把握当下,莫等待。
Friday, October 23, 2009
不要错放了幸福温暖的手
诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说:"此时此刻在地球上,
爱上一个人不需要靠努力,只需要靠"际遇",是上天的安排,但是
所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的Mr.Right,而是n问说在
若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣,不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了,
在感情对待中,难免有摩擦与无心的伤害,
所以萧伯纳的话,是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一,
别让那只鸟飞了
一天, 8 岁的儿子在我书房里乱翻,发现这张游戏光盘。玩过之后,
在儿子的提醒下,我打开了计算机,执行那张光盘。
万美元。
游戏打开之后,映入眼帘的是一栋具有皇家风范的豪宅。
游戏者进去之后,可以以主人的身份在这里生活。你想打高尔夫,
让仆人给你送去;想举行舞会,可以邀请包括马丹娜在内的 100 位世界级影视明星;想去旅行吗?车子就在门口;上了车,
草原。
总之,在这里,你可以随心所欲地生活,
但与现实不同的是,这栋豪宅里有一只鸟在飞,
豪宅的每一房间。这只鸟有一个特点:不论你是外出旅行,
假如你忘了,到了一定的时间,它就会从某个窗口里飞出去,
那么,该向那只篮子里面放些什么东西,才不会使鸟儿飞走、
自从打开这个游戏,我就被它迷住了。只要有空,
有一次,实在是不知该怎样侍候它,
这到底是怎样的一只鸟儿呢? 我送它金钱,它只在家里待 3 分钟,我送它一枝花朵,它竟可以待上 3 个小时。
后来我终于发现,它是一只婚姻鸟,并且它有许多不起眼的救星。
它告诉我,一句微不足道的赞许,一杯顺手递去的热茶,一枝 10 块钱的玫瑰, 这些日常生活中微不足道的东西,具有滋养婚姻的神奇力量。
前不久,一位朋友结婚,我把这张光盘送作礼物,转赠了出去。
我想,我应该让更多的人从这个游戏中,悟出婚姻中的一些道理。
把心带回家不要把一生心血精华卖给公司,留给家人的却是破铜烂铁 。
那一年的爱情 错过了请不要再等待
最初月华还不知道如何开口告诉他,因为大伟很爱很爱她,
大伟木讷得很,从不知道甜言蜜语,
其实最主要的原因还不在这些,而是大伟穷,自己穷家里也穷。
不过,启明就不同了,他高大且有一双动情的眼睛,
心的天平不知道从什么时候起向启明偏斜了许多。
分手是大伟提出来的。命运就是这么巧,世界这么大,
大伟的心很痛,但是他没有冲动,也没有歇斯底里地爆发,
回家,是摊牌的时刻了。月华等待着暴风雨的来临。
大伟做了最后一顿晚餐给月华,每一盘菜都是月华的最爱,
但是大伟却不肯再给月华机会了:'对不起,月,
分开了,结束了。另一段感情也很快随之结束了。
因为朝夕的相处,启明身上有着月华更多难以忍受的缺陷。
三年过去了,月华随朋友们一起去看大伟。不是夫妻了,
围裙的大伟忙前忙后,月华的眼睛有些湿润,
走在回家的路上,月色如水,满街的霓虹闪烁,
没有谁的爱可以重来,也没有谁愿意等待,
Monday, October 19, 2009
每個打擊,都有它的意義
http://www2.lssh.tp.edu.tw/~lib/share/hit.htm
我不祈求一帆風順,萬事如意,我只祈求當每個問題發生時,有繼續面對問題的勇氣與毅力,支撐下去。
總裁獅子心:嚴長壽
人生路上,挫折常常會沒有預警地從四面八方襲來。可能是無法抗拒的天災地變;可能是難以預料的生老病死;可能是努力工作,卻懷才不遇;可能是全心付出,卻換來情人變心的回報;可能是用功苦讀,卻進不了理想的學校;可能是辛苦創業,卻落得血本無歸的下場。
面對各種不同的挫折,每個人的「容忍能力」都不同。
有的人受不了被拒絕
一個高學歷的朋友,從拒絕接受他感情的女生住處跳樓自殺,留下無限的遺憾與惋惜。
「他條件那麼好,還怕找不到更漂亮的女朋友嗎?」
「沒想到他長的那麼帥,還會殉情!」
「何苦如此專情?天涯何處無芳草!」
大部份的親友們都以為他是個死心眼的癡情奇男子,其實了解內情的人都曉得,從小到大,他不知道拋棄了多少個女朋友,讓多少人為他傷心難過,卻受不了被人拋棄一次。
有的人受不了被誤解
到國外留學多年的朋友,提起出國一段不甚愉快的職場往事,仍然氣憤難耐。當年因上班的地點,位於寸土寸金的商業精華區,幾乎每天都為了找停車位而遲到。直屬上司希望他能準時上班,便建議他把車子停在公司的停車位。
由於職位低、年資淺,朋友心想,「公司的停車位哪輪得到我來停呢?」為求慎重起見,他再三詢問上司,「不會有問題嗎?真的可以停嗎?」
上司拍著胸脯保證,「絕對沒有問題,可以停啦!」
不料第一天把車子停在公司的停車位,就出事了。上班後不久,上司突然叫他,「你的電話。」拿起話筒,劈頭就被一個陌生女子罵了一頓,「我是公司的副理,立刻把你的車子開走。誰叫你把車停在我的位子上,害我上班遲到!」
被對方罵得莫名其妙,上司卻一點表示也沒有,朋友立即提出辭呈,不管公司怎麼留都沒有用。
有的人受不了被挑出錯誤
我認識一個辦事能力很強的朋友,他什麼都好,就是受不了被挑出錯誤。只要,有人當眾指出他「哪裡做錯了」,便辭職不幹。很多時候,面試他的主管起初都想不通,以他的學歷,早就該升官了,為什麼一直在原地打轉?等他提出辭呈才恍然大悟,原來他受不了被挑出錯誤。
有的人受不了一點不完美
好友的女兒生日,特地邀請幾個漂亮的阿姨去為小朋友慶生。切蛋糕時,有個小客人拿到蛋糕缺一角,他馬上把蛋糕推開,「我不要吃
破一個洞的蛋糕!」
「只缺一小角啊,蛋糕還是很好吃喔!」任憑阿姨們說破嘴,他就是不接受這塊缺了一角的蛋糕,最後只好換一塊「完美無缺」的蛋糕給他。看他為了一點缺角而拒吃蛋糕的表情,我很替他的未來擔心,是否每次都能如願換到一塊完美無缺的蛋糕呢?
1、想想自己,受得了挫折嗎?
2、受得了被拒絕嗎?
3、受得了被誤解嗎?
4、受得了被挑出錯誤嗎?
5、受得了失敗的打擊嗎?
6、受得了期待落空嗎?
7、受得了不完美的存在嗎?
「挫折容忍度」,說簡單些,即是「一個人承受打擊的能力」。承受打擊的能力越強,自然學到的經驗越多,累積的成功及本錢也越多。承受打擊的能力越弱,自然會想辦法躲避挫折,同時喪失自我磨練的機會。
挫折,是年輕人最好的禮物
記得曾看過一篇文章,作者提到:他剛從軍中退伍時,只有高中學歷,無一技之長,只好到一家印刷廠,擔任「送貨員」。一天,這年輕人將一整車四、五十捆的 書,送到某大學的七樓辦公室;當他先把兩三捆的書扛到電梯口等候時,一位五十多歲的警衛走過來,說:「這電梯是給教授、老師搭乘的,其他人一律都不准搭, 你必須走樓梯!」
年輕人向警衛解釋:「我不是學生,我是要送一整車的書到七樓辦公室,這是你們學校訂的書啊!」
可是警衛一臉無情的說:「不行就是不行,你不是教授,不是老師,不准搭電梯!」兩人在電梯口吵半天,但警衛依然不予放行,年輕人心想,這一車的書,要搬完,至少要來回走七層樓梯二十多趟,會累死人的!
後來,年輕人無法忍受這「無理的刁難」,就心一橫,把四、五十捆書搬放在大廳角落,不顧一切的走人。年輕人向印刷廠老闆解釋事情原委,獲得諒解,但也向老闆辭職,並且立刻到書局買整套高中教材和參考書,含淚發誓,我一定要奮發圖強,考上大學,我絕不再讓別人「瞧不起」。
這年輕人在聯考前半年,天天閉門苦讀十四個小時,因為他知道,他的時間不多了,他已無退路可走,每當他偷懶、懈怠時,腦中就想起「警衛不准他搭電梯」被羞 辱、歧視的一幕,也就打起精神、加倍努力用功。後來,這年輕人終於考上某大學醫學院。如今,二十多年過去了,他也變成一家開業診所的中年醫生,然而,他靜 心一想,當時,要不是「警衛無理刁難和歧視」,他怎能從屈辱中擦乾眼淚、勇敢站起來?
而那位被他痛恨的警衛,不也是他一生中的恩人嗎?經國先生曾說:「失意時需要忍,得意時需要淡。」的確,人,都有失意,不順遂的時候,然而,我更相信!「挫折,是年輕人最好的禮物!」
人只有在遭遇挫折,被他人百般刁難、岐視、嘲諷時,才能「打醒自己」,讓自己被「當頭棒喝」而驚醒過來!這豈不是一生中最珍貴的禮物?因此,如果現在的挫折,能帶給你未來幸福,請忍受它。如果現在的快樂,會帶給你未來不幸,請拋棄它。「生命中的每個挫折、每個傷痛、每個打擊,都有它的意義。」祝福大家都能夠突破自己所不能突破的難關。
Sunday, October 18, 2009
認真地活在當下
北歐一座教堂裡, 有一尊耶穌被釘在十字架上的苦像,大小和一般人差不多。因為有求必應,因此專程前來這裡祈禱,膜拜的人特別多,幾乎可以用門庭若市來形容。
教堂裡有位看門的人,看十字架上的耶穌每天要應付這麼多人的要求,覺得於心不忍,他希望能分擔耶穌的辛苦。有一天他祈禱時,向耶穌表明這份心願。意外地,他聽到一個聲音,說:「好啊!我下來為你看門,你上來釘在十字架上。但是,不論你看到什麼、聽到什麼,都不可以說一句話。」
這位先生覺得,這個要求很簡單。於是耶穌下來,看門的先生上去,像耶穌被釘在十字架般地伸張雙臂,本來神像就雕刻得和真人差不多,所以來膜拜的群眾不疑有他,這位先生也依照先前的約定,靜默不語,聆聽信友的心聲。
來往的人潮絡繹不絕,他們的祈求,有合理的,有不合理的,千奇百怪不一而足。但無論如何,他都強忍下來而沒有說話,因為他必須信守先前的承諾。
有一天來了一位富商,當富商祈禱完後,竟然忘記手邊的錢便離去。他看在眼裡,真想叫這位富商回來,但是,他憋著不能說。接著來了一位三餐不繼的窮人,他祈禱耶穌能幫助它渡過生活的難關。當要離去時,發現先前那位富商留下的袋子,打開,裏面全是錢。窮人高興得不得了,耶穌真好,有求必應,萬分感謝地離去。十字架上偽裝的耶穌看在眼裏,想告訴他,這不是你的。但是,約定在先,他仍然憋著不能說。
接下來有一位要出海遠行的年輕人來到,他是來祈求耶穌降福他平安。正當要離去時,富商衝進來,抓住年輕人的衣襟,要年輕人還錢,年輕人不明究理,兩人吵了起來。這個時候,十字架上偽裝的耶穌終於忍不住,遂開口說話了……。既然事情清楚了,富商便去找冒牌耶穌所形容的窮人,而年輕人則匆匆離去,生怕搭不上船。
偽裝成看門的耶穌出現,指著十字架上說:「你下來吧!那個位置你沒有資格了。」
看門人說:「我把真相說出來,主持公道,難道不對嗎?」
耶穌說:「你懂得什麼?那位富商並不缺錢,他那袋錢不過用來嫖妓,可是對那窮人,卻是可以挽回一家大小生計;最可憐的是那位年輕人,如果富商一直纏下去,延誤了他出海的時間,他還能保住一條命,而現在,他所搭乘的船正沉入海中。」
這是一個聽起來像笑話的寓言故事,卻透露出:『在現實生活中,我們常自認為怎麼樣才是最好的,但事與願違,使我們意不能平。我們必須相信:目前我們所擁有的,不論順境、逆境,都是對我們最好的安排。若能如此,我們才能在順境中感恩,在逆境中依舊心存喜樂。
『馬斯洛』說過的話:
心若改變,你的態度跟著改變;
態度改變,你的習慣跟著改變;
習慣改變,你的性格跟著改變;
性格改變,你的人生跟著改變。
在順境中感恩,在逆境中依舊心存喜樂,認真地活在當下。