我很想你~

天鹅飞去鸟不回,
良字去头两人靠,
双木非淋心相随,
您若无心个自飞.

Bless you

I knocked on Heaven's door.
God said, 'What can I do for you?'
I asked, 'Please love, protect, heal and bless the one reading this.'
God smiled, 'ALREADY DONE.'

FRIEND

F - First for me
R - Ready for me
I - Inspire me
E - Enjoy life with me
N - Never forget me
D - Dear

加油

我把苹果放在你的手机里，
为你补充一天所需的元气，
让你更有力量的去做每一件事，
也让你知道有我这个可爱的朋友永远站在你身边为你打气加油！
加油！

A person like you

A person like you is a gift
That paints a smile in my heart,
It gives memories
That will stay in me,
Not for a while,
But for a lifetime.

永远的朋友

结识你时就和心签了份契约，
要做你永远的朋友。
原谅我没有常常联络你，
但你的名字不只储存在我的手机里，
还在我的脑海中，
不长，
就这一生……一辈子。

我俩友情万岁

天鹅飞去鸟不回，
人旁半斤缺八两，
一人单腿又落下，
眼睛没眼只有心，
方圆百里没找头，
夕阳山下已注定。

永远的

茶，要喝浓的，直到淡而无味。
酒，要喝醉的，永远不想醒来。
人，要深爱的，要下辈子还要接着爱的那种。
朋友，要永远的，就是看手机的这个！

祝福

天需要云才会美，
夜里有了星星才会漂亮，
大海有了风才会有海浪声，
人有了关心就会幸福开心。
但愿我的信息和祝福带给你快乐！

铃声~

风铃的浪漫在于勾起了人们对美好生活的向往，
驼铃的深沉在于激起人们对锦绣前程的憧憬，
短信的铃声让你知道有人还惦记你，
见不到你的日子依然想念你。

Happy Mother's Day

A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavour by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.

- Washington Irving

母亲一生的八个谎话

儿时，小男孩家很穷，吃饭时，饭常常不够吃，母亲就把自己碗里的饭分给孩子吃。母亲说，孩子们，快吃吧，我不饿！――母亲撒的第一个谎

男孩长身体的时候，勤劳的母亲常用周日休息时间去县郊农村河沟里捞些鱼来给孩子们补钙。鱼很好吃，鱼汤也很鲜。孩子们吃鱼的时候，母亲就在一旁啃鱼骨头，用舌头舔鱼骨头上的肉渍。男孩心疼，就把自己碗里的鱼夹到母亲碗里，请母亲吃鱼。母亲不吃，母亲又用筷子把鱼夹回男孩的碗里。母亲说，孩子，快吃吧，我不爱吃鱼！――母亲撒的第二个谎。

上初中了，为了缴够男孩和哥姐的学费，当缝纫工的母亲就去居委会领些火柴盒拿回家来，晚上糊了挣点分分钱补点家用。有个冬天，男孩半夜醒来，看到母亲还躬着身子在油灯下糊火柴盒。男孩说，母亲，睡了吧，明早您还要上班呢。母亲笑笑，说，孩子，快睡吧，我不困！――母亲撒的第三个谎

高考那年，母亲请了假天天站在考点门口为参加高考的男孩助阵。时逢盛夏，烈日当头，固执的母亲在烈日下一站就是几个小时。考试结束的铃声响了，母亲迎上去递过一杯用罐头瓶泡好的浓茶叮嘱孩子喝了，茶亦浓，情更浓。望着母亲干裂的嘴唇和满头的汗珠，男孩将手中的罐头瓶反递过去请母亲喝。母亲说，孩子，快喝吧，我不渴！――母亲撒的第四个谎。

父亲病逝之后，母亲又当爹又当娘，靠着自己在缝纫社里那点微薄收入含辛茹苦拉扯着几个孩子，供他们念书，日子过得苦不堪言。胡同路口电线杆下修表的李叔叔知道后，大事小事就找岔过来打个帮手，搬搬煤，挑挑水，送些钱粮来帮补男孩的家里。人非草木，孰能无情。左邻右舍对此看在眼里，记在心里，都劝母亲再嫁，何必苦了自己。然而母亲多年来却守身如玉，始终不嫁，别人再劝，母亲也断然不听，母亲说，我不爱！――母亲撒的第五个谎

男孩和她的哥姐大学毕业参加工作后，下了岗的母亲就在附近农贸市场摆了个小摊维持生活。身在外地工作的孩子们知道后就常常寄钱回来补贴母亲，母亲坚决不要，并将钱退了回去。母亲说，我有钱！――母亲撒的第六个谎

男孩留校任教两年，后又考取了美国一所名牌大学的博士生，毕业后留在美国一家科研机构工作，待遇相当丰厚，条件好了，身在异国的男孩想把母亲接来享享清福却被老人回绝了。母亲说，我不习惯！――母亲撒的第七个谎

晚年，母亲患了胃癌，住进了医院，远在大西洋彼岸的男孩乘飞机赶回来时，术后的母亲已是奄奄一息了。母亲老了，望着被病魔折磨得死去活来的母亲，男孩悲痛欲绝，潸然泪下。母亲却说，孩子，别哭，我不疼。――母亲撒的第八个谎

不论你多富有,不管你官多大,到什么时候也离不开咱的妈....愿天下父母平安度春秋.......
珍惜母亲的每一个谎言, 好好的对待父母, 很多东西, 失去后才得来的珍贵代价太大.
所以一定要好好的爱我们的父母~

Your Mistake is not Asking What Mistake You're Making

By Dr John C. Maxwell

Recently after I taught a session on conflict, a young man came up to me during the break and said, “I’m going to start my own organization."

“Good for you,” I replied.

“Yeah,” he continued, “I want to build a business ‘the right way.’ That way I won’t have to deal with any problems.”

“You know,” I said as he was turning to leave. “You’re making the mis­take of thinking you won’t make any mistakes.”

Ignorance Isn’t Bliss

When you’re young and idealistic, you think you can lead better than many of the people who have led others before you. I know that was true for me. When I got started in my career, I was positive, aggressive, opti­mistic—and totally naive. I often led by assumption. By that I mean that in my youthful zeal, I usually took for granted that everything was fine. I didn’t look for problems because I didn’t expect to have any. The result? I got blindsided. Whenever that occurred, I was bewildered. How could such a thing happen? I would wonder.

After getting blindsided for the fourth or fifth time, in desperation I started asking experienced leaders for help. One of those leaders told me something that changed my leadership. He said, “John, the biggest mistake you can make is to not ask what mistakes you are making.”

That piece of advice set my leadership journey on a new course. It was my introduction to realistic thinking—something I was not accustomed to embracing. As I examined myself, I learned some things:

• I gave little thought to what might go wrong.

• I assumed that the “right way” would be mistake-free.

• I did not acknowledge mistakes I made to myself or others.

• I was not learning from my mistakes.

• I was not helping others by teaching lessons learned from my mistakes.

If I wanted to become a better leader, I would need to change. I would have to stop making the mistake of not asking what mistake I was making.

Recipe for Successful Failure

No one ever sized people up more accurately than the person who invented the pencil eraser. Everyone makes mistakes—large and small. To get maximum attention, make a big mistake. To cause maximum damage, fail to admit it! That will keep you from growing as a leader. When it comes to success, it’s not the number of mistakes you make; it’s the number of times you make the same mistake. If you want to learn to fail successfully and handle the mis­takes you do make with maximum profit, then you need to do the following five things:

1. Admit Your Own Mistakes and Weaknesses

Recently I was speaking to several CEOs at a conference, and I was encouraging them to be open about their mistakes and weaknesses with the people they lead. The room became very tense, and I could tell that they were resistant to my advice.

During the next break as I was signing books, the leader of a company asked to see me privately. When I could take a break, we moved away from the others and he said, “I disagree with your suggestion that we should be open to others about our failures.” Then he began to tell me how important it was to put up a strong front and be totally confident in front of your people.

I heard him out, but when he was fin­ished, I said, “You are leading others with a wrong assumption.”

“What is it?” he asked with anxiety.

“You assume that your people don’t know your weaknesses,” I responded. “Trust me, they do. When you admit your mistakes, it is not a surprise to them: it is a reassurance. They’ll be able to look at each other and say, ‘Whew! He knows. Now we don’t have to keep pretending!’”

The first step toward anticipating mistakes and learning from the ones you do make is to take a realistic look at yourself and admit your weak­nesses. You can’t improve as a leader if you’re too busy trying to pretend you’re perfect.

Former U.S. Navy captain Michael Abrashoff writes in his book It’s Your Ship, “Whenever I could not get the results I wanted, I swallowed my temper and turned inward to see if I was part of the problem. I asked myself three questions: Did I clearly articulate the goals? Did I give people enough time and resources to accomplish the task? Did I give them enough training? I discovered that 90 percent of the time, I was at least as much a part of the problem as my people were.” Admitting our failures and tak­ing responsibility for them will allow us to go to the next step.

2. Accept Mistakes as the Price of Progress

Psychologist Joyce Brothers asserts, “The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of get­ting to the top.” Nothing is perfect in this life—and that includes you! You’d better start getting used to it. If you want to move forward, you’re going to make mistakes.

Pro football Hall of Fame quarterback Joe Montana remarked, “As if screwing up on the field in front of millions of TV viewers wasn’t enough, the Monday after every game I got to relive my mistakes—over and over again, in slow motion and with commentary from the coaches! Even when we won, we always took time to review our mistakes. When you’re forced to confront your mistakes that often, you learn not to take your failures so personally. I learned to fast, learn from my mistakes and mow on. Why beat yourself up about it? Just do better next time!

Not everyone is willing to confront his mistakes and not take them personally. Because Montana did, he became one of the best players in the history of the NFL. His leadership and ability to handle adversity earned him the nickname “Joe Cool.” Those qualities also helped him to win four Super Bowls and be named Super Bowl MVP three times. If you want to reach your poten­tial as a leader, expect to fail and make mistakes.

3. Insist on Learning from Your Mistake

Author and leadership expert Tom Peters writes, “From the smallest branch to the corporate level, there is nothing more useless than the per­son who says at the end of the day, as their own report card, ‘Well, I made it through the end of the day without screwing up.’”

There are two common responses people have concerning failure. While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, the other is busy mak­ing mistakes, learning from them, and becoming superior. People can either run from mistakes and hurt themselves, or they learn from them and help themselves. People who try to avoid failure at all costs never learn and end up repeating the same mistakes over and over again. But those who are willing to learn from their failures never have to repeat them again. As Author William Saroyan observed, “Good people are good because they have come to wisdom through failure. We get very little wisdom from success.” People in leadership need to take their cue from scientists. In science, mistakes always precede the discovery of truth.

4. Ask Yourself and Others, “What Are We Missing?”

Some people expect nothing but trouble. They are pessimistic, so they don’t bother to look for anything good. Others, like me, have a natural tendency assume that everything is good. But either kind of thinking can hurt a leader. Elizabeth Elliot, author of All That Was Ever Ours, points out, “All generalizations are false including this one, yet we keep making them. We create images—graven ones that can’t be changed; we dismiss or accept people, products, programs and propaganda according to the labels they come under; we know a little about something, and we treat it like we know everything.” Leaders need to be more discern­ing than that.

It is easy to make decisions based on what we know. But there are always things we don’t know. It is easy to choose a direction based on what we see. But what don’t we see? Reading between the lines is essential for good leader­ship. We are most likely to do that when we ask the question, “What are we missing?”

Back in the l990s during the dot com boom, it seemed that everybody wanted to get in on what looked like a great thing. At that time, the leadership team at one of my companies entertained the idea of creating a dot com company for leaders. Every time someone brought it up, there would be tremendous energy in the room. Everyone got very excited about the potential of such a venture, However, every time this issue was discussed, my brother, Larry, would ask one simple question that brought everyone back down to earth: “How do these companies generate revenue beyond initial investments?” No one had a satisfactory answer.

Is Larry a killjoy, someone who delights in shooting down others’ ideas and squashing opportunities? No, he’s a realist. His question was just another version of “What are we missing?” And when reality hit the dot coms, we were glad he kept asking that question.

The value of asking, “What are we missing?” is that it causes everyone to stop and think. Many people can see what’s obvious. Few can see what there. Asking tough questions causes people to think differently. Not asking questions is to assume that a project is potentially perfect and that if it’s handled with care, there will be no problems. That simply isn’t reality.

5. Give the People Around You Permission to Push Back

Recently I saw a sign in a high-pressure sales office that said, “Do you like to travel? Do you want to meet new friends? Do you want to free up your future? All this can be yours if you make one more mistake.” Fear of making mistakes keeps many individuals from reaching their potential. Fear of being honest with leaders about the potential problems that a course of action might bring has hurt many teams. The best leaders invite the opinions of the people on their teams.

When leaders don’t get input from others on their team, it can lead to disaster. Michael Abrashoft touches on this problem in It’s Your Ship. He writes:

The moment I heard about it [the tragic sinking of a Japanese fishing boat off Honolulu by the submarine USS Greeneville], I was reminded that, as is often the case with accidents, someone senses possible danger but doesn’t necessarily speak up. As the Greeneville investigation unfolded, I read in a New York Times article that the submarine’s crew “respected the commanding officer too much to question his judgment.” If that’s respect, then I want none of it. You need to have people in your organization that can tap you on your shoulder and say, “Is this the best way?” or “Slow down,” or “Think about this,” or “Is what we are doing worth killing or injuring somebody?”

History records countless incidents in which ship captains or organization managers permitted a climate of intimidation to pervade the workplace, silencing subordinates whose warnings could have prevented disaster. Even when the reluctance to speak up stems from admiration for the commanding officer’s skill and experience, a climate to question decisions must be created in order to foster double-checking.

Many good minds working together are always better than one work­ing alone. Because I’ve learned that lesson, I’ve changed from someone who avoids potentially bad news to someone who invites it. For many years I’ve given permission to members of my inner circle to ask me hard ques­tions and give me their opinion when they disagree with me. I don’t ever want to make a mistake and then hear a team member say after the fact, “I thought that was going to be a bad decision.” I want people to tell me on the front end, not after it’s too late for their advice to help. Pushback before a decision is made is never disloyalty. However, question­ing a decision after it’s made is not what I consider to be good teamwork.

If you lead people, then you need to give them permission to ask hard questions and push back against your ideas. That permis­sion must be given to others by the leader. Too often leaders would rather have followers who turn a blind eye instead of ones who speak with a blunt tongue. But if all is quiet when decisions are being considered, it probably won’t be quiet after it plays out. English philosopher-statesman Sir Francis Bacon observed, “If a person will begin with certainties, he will end in doubts; but if he will be content to begin with doubts, he will end in certainties.” I’d say those are the words of a leader who was willing to ask, “What mistake am I making?”

Application Exercises

1. What is your attitude toward mistakes? Are you an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist? An optimist is afraid to look for possible problems. A pessimist is convinced there will be nothing but problems. Neither of these attitudes is beneficial. You must strive to be realistic. As you work this week, ask yourself, your colleagues, and your subordinates: (1) “What could go wrong?” and (2) “What are we missing?”

2. Are you owning up to your mistakes? Are your mistakes friends or ene­mies? The proof that leaders have embraced their mistakes and made them their friends can be determined by how often they make and admit them. Ask people who work with you to grade you on a scale of 1 (reluctant) to 10 (dedicated), regarding how willingly you own up to your mistakes, It your score is below an 8, you need to put more effort into admitting your weaknesses to other people, owning up to your mistakes, learning from them, and embracing failure as a part of success.

3. Are you getting the best ideas from your subordinates? How often do you ask the people you lead to give you their opinions on issues? How often do you include them in the information-gathering and decision-making processes? As the leader, you ultimately have the responsibility for mak­ing final decisions. The buck stops with you. However, if you are not making the most of the ideas and experiences of your people, you’re limiting your leadership effectiveness. Start asking for the opinions of others today.

遇见你

地球有六十亿人口，
我遇见你的机率是六十亿分之一，
然而我却在这时遇见了你，
这证明了什么？
我很不幸……
因为酱迟才遇见一个像你酱好的朋友！

星球缘份

人与人的关系就像是运转中的星球，
在这广大浩瀚的宇宙里，
你我和其有缘能在同一个轨道上
环绕、相遇、相知……
希望我们的缘分可如恒星般维持得很久很久……

U

How can I spell "S_CCESS" without "U"?
or "C_TE"?
or "H_MBLE"?
or "F_N"?
or "F_T_RE"?
or even "TR_ST"?
What will I do without "U"?
Proud to have a friend like U.

想你

每个城市都会下雨，
就像我走到哪里都会想你，
思念是一种果实，
甜中带酸，
盛产在夜里，
满满的回忆，
带着不确定的心情，
想你，想你，
真的好想你……

微笑，欢笑

我什么都没有……
只是有一点吵……
如果你感到寂寞……
我带给你热闹……
为你笑一笑……
没有什么大不了……
只想看你微笑……
你的微笑，是我内心的欢笑……

Tear in the ocean

I was at the ship thinking of you,
when I looked down,
I dropped a tear into the ocean.
I made a swear until someone finds it...
That's the only time I'll forget you.

Excellent Thoughts

If you were born poor it's not your mistake, but if you die poor it's your mistake. - Bill Gates

In a day, when you don't come across any problems - you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path. - Swami Vivekananda

Three sentences for getting success:
a) know more than other
b) work more than other
c) expect less than other - William Shakespeare

If you win you need not explain... but if you lose you should not be there to explain. - Adolph Hitler

Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world. If you do so, you are insulting yourself. - Alen Strike

If we cannot love the person whom we see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? - Mother Teresa

Winning doesn't always mean being first, winning means you're doing better than you've done before. - Bonnie Blair

I will not say I failed 1000 times, I will say that I discovered there are 1000 ways that can cause failure. - Thomas Edison

Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. - Leo Tolstoy

Believing everybody is dangerous, believing nobody is very dangerous. - Abraham Lincoln

If someone feels that they had never made a mistake in their life, it means they had never tried a new thing in their life. - Einstein

Never break four things in your life - Trust, Promise, Relation & Heart, because when they break they don't make noise but pains a lot. - Charles

If you start judging people you will be having no time to love them. - Mother Teresa

Beautiful Words To Live By

In life there are moments when you miss someone so much,
that you wish you could grab them out of your dreams and hug them tight!

When a door closes,
Another one opens,
But often we stand there so long looking at the closed door,
That we do not see that one that's opened.

Do not look at physical appearances, they can be deceiving.
Do not look at riches, for they are only temporary.
Look for someone who makes you smile.
Because sometimes it only takes a smile to brighten up a very dark day.
Look for someone who makes your heart sing.

Dream what you want to dream;
Go where you want to go;
Try to be who you really are;
Because life is short,
and often only gives one chance to do things.

I wish you in life
a lot of luck
to feel good;
Many trials
to remain strong;
Some tears
to remain human;
Lots of hope,
to become happy.

The really lucky people do not necessarily have the best of everything;
They are the ones who make the most of whatever life throws at them.

Life is not measured with the quantity of breaths you take,
but with the quantity of moments that took your breath away!