有对老夫妻年与务实，经济条件不错，理当是安详退休生活的时候，却相偕到律师那儿要办离婚。原因是自从结婚以来，两人争吵不断，老师意见不和，个性上又南辕北辙十分不和谐，二十多年的婚姻生活，要不是为了孩子着想，早就劳燕纷飞了。好不容易总算盼到孩子们成年，再不需要父母操心，为了彼此在晚年都自由的生活，不用再忍受那么多无谓的争吵，决定办离婚。
这一刻在律师面前，让律师也面有难色，律师费都有点不好意思收了，于是他提议办完手续后，三人一起吃顿饭。老夫妻想了想，虽然离了婚，两人又没什么深仇大恨，吃顿饭总可以吧！餐厅里三人气氛非常尴尬（想也难怪，陌生的律师和两个刚离婚的人）。正巧服务生送来一道烤鸡，老先生马上挟起一块鸡腿给老太太说：“吃吧！你最喜欢吃的鸡腿。”
律师眼睛一亮，心想事情也许有了转机哦！
未料老太太红着双眼说：“我很爱你，但你这个人就爱自以为是，什么事都自己说了就算，从来不管别人的感受，难道你不知道，我这辈子最讨厌吃的就是鸡腿吗？”这是老先生也有点哽咽地说：“你……总是不了解我爱你的心，时时刻刻我都在想，要如何讨你的欢心，总是把最好的留给你，你知道吗？这辈子我最喜欢吃的就是……鸡腿。“律师看在眼里，不免鼻头一酸，两个如此深爱着彼此的人，却因为沟通除了问题而面临分开的局面。这一晚两人心中都有着无限的感慨，这么多年的感情却要面对如此残酷的结局。
老先生整晚翻来覆去睡不着，心中阵阵如火燃烧般的痛在心底无情的煎熬着。他考虑了很久，强忍着痛苦打电话给老太太，想要表达他内心的后悔，他想告书老太太，他是多么的爱她。电话声响了，老太太知道一定是老先生打来的，但是她心中充满了恨，她觉得是老先生负了她一生，她不想再听到他的声音。电话不知响了多久，老太太就是不接，婚都离了，面子重要，怎能接电话，甚至她把电话线都拆了。
老先生手握着冰冷的话筒，听不到老太太的声音，心中有如刀割一般，久久无法释怀。其实这一天晚上老太太也是在伤心中辗转难眠，而且她忘了……老先生他有心脏病。
隔天，老先生被发现斯在自己家客厅，手里还紧握着电话筒。老太太知道这个消息后简直无法相信，为了赌一口气，竟然让自己深爱的人在心碎中死去，这时候任她如何大声的呼喊也唤不回老先生回眸一笑。
老太太柔肠寸断的整理老先生的遗物，突然发现抽屉里的一张保险单，投保日起就是当年他们俩的结婚日，受益人当然是老太太的名字，虽然金额只有一百万元，但是当中夹着一张字条 - ‘亲爱的，当你发现这张宝但是，也许我已经不在人世了，但我爱你的心不会改变，照顾你的责任更不会终止，这些保险金将代替我，继续给你无微不至的爱与关怀，一如我仍然在你身旁，永远爱你的……’看到这里老太太早已泪如雨下，她真的没看走眼，他是真心愿意照顾自己一辈子的人。
千万不要让生命中有这样的遗憾，早早放下心中无谓的面子、成见，用爱与包容，否则你可能错过这一生深爱你的人最后一次所说的：“我爱你！”
到时再多的怨恨也无法挽回这样的遗憾。更提醒您，要把握住机会，让心爱的人知道你有多在乎他，勇敢地说出来吧！希望天下有情人终成眷属！
Thursday, June 12, 2008
God bless you
A kiss from the sunlight greets you a new day,
God embrace you when you pray,
Blessings from God as the day decay,
May you go through this journey by His way.
Finally, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things.
As the eyes of slaves look to the hand of their master,
As the eyes of the maid look to the hand of her mistress,
So our eyes look to the Lord our God,
Till He shows us mercy.
God embrace you when you pray,
Blessings from God as the day decay,
May you go through this journey by His way.
Finally, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things.
As the eyes of slaves look to the hand of their master,
As the eyes of the maid look to the hand of her mistress,
So our eyes look to the Lord our God,
Till He shows us mercy.
Enthusiasim
Your enthusiasm will be infectious, stimulating and attractive to others. They will love you for it. They will go for you and with you. –Norman Vincent Peale
Have you ever been so enthusiastic - so passionate - about something that the words stop and go cease to exist in your vocabulary, replaced only with continue? You feel like a volcano about to explode, so you continue until you burst forth with excitement. And, have you ever noticed that when you are turning out this energy, you inspire yourself to do more and to go in new directions? Instead of coming to an end after each accomplishment, you find yourself arriving at a new beginning, inspiring others to go with you.
Have you ever been so enthusiastic - so passionate - about something that the words stop and go cease to exist in your vocabulary, replaced only with continue? You feel like a volcano about to explode, so you continue until you burst forth with excitement. And, have you ever noticed that when you are turning out this energy, you inspire yourself to do more and to go in new directions? Instead of coming to an end after each accomplishment, you find yourself arriving at a new beginning, inspiring others to go with you.
Golden rules of love
Friendship often ends in love...
But love in friendship - never...
Don't marry a person you can live with,
Marry a person you cannot live without.
To love is nothing,
To be loved is something,
To love and be loved is everything.
Kindness in words creates confidence,
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness,
Kindness in giving creates love.
Love - one word that frees us of all the weight and pain in life.
But love in friendship - never...
Don't marry a person you can live with,
Marry a person you cannot live without.
To love is nothing,
To be loved is something,
To love and be loved is everything.
Kindness in words creates confidence,
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness,
Kindness in giving creates love.
Love - one word that frees us of all the weight and pain in life.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Beautiful wisdom
The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.
"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids.."
"No, seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk non-stop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.
She loved to dress up and she revelled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet.
I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!
There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.
If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.
Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.
The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.."
She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose."
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.
At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.
These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE: REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.
God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
"IN ORDER TO GROW, YOU SOMETIMES HAVE TO GO AGAINST CONVENTIONAL WISDOM"
YOU DON'T MAKE REAL PROGRESS UNLESS YOU HAVE A VISION
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.
"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids.."
"No, seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk non-stop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.
She loved to dress up and she revelled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet.
I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!
There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.
If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.
Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.
The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.."
She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose."
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.
At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.
These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE: REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.
God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
"IN ORDER TO GROW, YOU SOMETIMES HAVE TO GO AGAINST CONVENTIONAL WISDOM"
YOU DON'T MAKE REAL PROGRESS UNLESS YOU HAVE A VISION
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
My wish for you
This is my wish for you:
comfort on difficult days,
smiles when sadness intrudes,
rainbows to follow the clouds,
laughter to kiss you lips,
sunsets to warm your heart,
hugs when spirits sag,
friendships to brighten your being,
beauty for your eyes to see,
faith so that you can believe,
confidence for when you doubt,
patience to accept the truth,
courage to know yourself,
love to complete your life.
comfort on difficult days,
smiles when sadness intrudes,
rainbows to follow the clouds,
laughter to kiss you lips,
sunsets to warm your heart,
hugs when spirits sag,
friendships to brighten your being,
beauty for your eyes to see,
faith so that you can believe,
confidence for when you doubt,
patience to accept the truth,
courage to know yourself,
love to complete your life.
(Anonymous)
Two choices
Jerry is the manager of a restaurant. He is always in a good mood.
When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would always reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed jobs, so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant.
Why?
Because Jerry was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was always there, telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, I have two choices today. I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to be in a bad mood. I always choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be victim or I can choose to learn from it. I always choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose the positive side of life."
"But it's not always that easy," I protested.
"Yes it is," Jerry said.
"Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk every situation is a choice.
You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. It's your choice how you live your life."
Several years later, I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you are not supposed to do in the restaurant business.
He left the back door of his restaurant open, and then in the morning he was robbed by three armed men. They wanted money. While Jerry was trying to open the safe box, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.
Luckily, Jerry was found quickly and rushed to the hospital. After 18 hours of surgery, and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied.
"Then, after they shot me, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or chould choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared?" I asked.
Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the expression on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Please operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.
I learned from him that everyday you have the choice to either enjoy our life or to hate it.
The only thing that is truly yours - that no one can control or take from you - is your attitude, so if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much easier.
When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would always reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed jobs, so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant.
Why?
Because Jerry was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was always there, telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, I have two choices today. I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to be in a bad mood. I always choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be victim or I can choose to learn from it. I always choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose the positive side of life."
"But it's not always that easy," I protested.
"Yes it is," Jerry said.
"Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk every situation is a choice.
You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. It's your choice how you live your life."
Several years later, I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you are not supposed to do in the restaurant business.
He left the back door of his restaurant open, and then in the morning he was robbed by three armed men. They wanted money. While Jerry was trying to open the safe box, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.
Luckily, Jerry was found quickly and rushed to the hospital. After 18 hours of surgery, and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied.
"Then, after they shot me, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or chould choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared?" I asked.
Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the expression on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Please operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.
I learned from him that everyday you have the choice to either enjoy our life or to hate it.
The only thing that is truly yours - that no one can control or take from you - is your attitude, so if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much easier.
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